If two adults from vastly different religions marry and they are both very strict about their beliefs (save for the fact that they don't mind marrying out of their religion), who gets to say what religion the child will follow?
Obviously both religions cannot co-exist in the upbringing and the child will not be able to choose for themselves for many years, so how is it possible for the parents to come to a compromise?
Any parents who have already gone through this situation?
2006-12-23 08:05:19 · 25 answers · asked by I Am Legend 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We waited till our youngest was 5. then we got a book that gave an overview of the worlds religions. We explained the beliefs of each one to him and asked him to think about it for a while. He said I don't need to think about it. The one that makes the most sense to me is Buddhism.
We left it at that. He has always had a compassionate thoughtful approach to everyone he had any dealings with. Much as Buddhist tradition dictates.
It worked for me.
Love and blessings Don
2006-12-23 08:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why it's best to marry someone with same or similar beliefs. So far, you can either:
1. Raise the child with the knowledge of both and let them chose one.
2. Raise two children and let one have the religion of the mother and the other have the religion of the father.
2006-12-23 08:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lady of the Garden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't. It is a basic human right to be able to choose your own religion. By indoctrination a child into a religion it is taking away that child's right to choose their religion as they will have been taught that one is the ultimate unquestionable truth and all others are evil. Simply teach a child the facts and let them make up their own mind at the age of 16. (One slight "flaw" with this system by only looking at the facts you come to atheism so the god squad don't like it) Say no to jesus.
2006-12-23 08:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by Say no to jesus 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was raised in a household of mixed religious belief... We (three children) were left to decide the question on our own as time passed. It was a very good decision and it left none of us kids without either mainstream morals or a stable and truthful belief. We all became law abiding Atheists - Thank goodness for the sacrifices of ego and self on the part of the best parents in the world, my Mom and Dad.
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POST SCRIPT to mrs.mom: How is backing up everything with the Bible a fair and reasonable approach to supporting ones beliefs. If your husband has no faith in the divinity of Jesus, how is the Bible going to back him?
2006-12-23 08:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem with my husband. but I am the religious one and he is not. He does let me teach the kids what is in the Bible. If there have been disagreements with what I am teaching he will talk with me and we come up with a solution.
You both should sit down and put on paper what believes you follow. Then back them up using only the Bible. Find some thing that fits the both of you. It may be some thing that is different from what the both of you were raised in. Teaching them Bible TRUTHS should be the important part.
I hoped I helped a little.
2006-12-23 08:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is why the Bible tells us NOT TO MARRY people unequally yoked. What I mean is that a Christian shouldn't yoke together with an Athiest or a muslim or a Jew because they have corruption in thier Marriage. I was Born Luthern and my parents converted to Catholic Church in the 90's in my teens. Then years later I turned athiest for a few years. Then after a few years of being an atheist I found someone that is a Christian and he is my husband and he brought me back to church. Now I am a Born Again Christian.
It's actually up to a child what he/she believes in but in my Home we will serve the Lord and I'll be Homeschooling my future children.
whomever says forcing children to believe in Religion and or the Bible is abuse are decieved.
2006-12-23 08:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can introduce the child to all religious beliefs and let the child choose when the child gets older. in the mean time you can do both. ex: church on sunday and temple on friday/saturday or go with buddhism, it allows for the buddhist to celebrate and worship in other faiths
2006-12-23 08:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither are strong enough in their beliefs or the would not have married the other. The child should experience another religeon that teaches that two should be equally yolked of the same faith. I know this sounds mean and I don't mean to be.
2006-12-23 08:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by irstaxhelp 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You dont, your child will and should. At an age that is appropriate, your child should be exposed to your religion but not forced to accommadate you JUST BECAUSE. Then they will not have a deep respect for your beliefs, instead it will be b/c of their relationship with you.
2006-12-23 10:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely*~*Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach the child both religions and practice both. That way the child can choose when he or she is older.
2006-12-23 08:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋