One morning I had to go to the dentist and my fiance likes to sleep in and hes late for work everyday. Well anyways when I wake him up he gets really mad b/c he had to watch my son (hes not the father). He gets up cussing and throwing a fit so I got back at him telling him if he doesnt want to watch him then my mom will. But after we get into a fight later on he is nice to us, whats the deal? When he is around his friends he is always smiling and laughing, but when I go to see him its like he is not even there. I dont know what to do? Advice please.....
2006-12-23 07:57:59 · 13 answers · asked by tradeangel2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break it off with this loser before he does emotional damage to you and your son. He's not going to be a good stepdad and he obviously doesn't respect you. Plus he sounds very immature, like a little boy who doesn't want to get up and go to school and throws a temper tantrum every morning. He needs to grow up and face his job responsibilities (not being late) before he can be mature enough to face supporting a wife and a stepson.
2006-12-23 08:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by macc_1957 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't overlook it.. you've seen what he's like in private. Hes selfish and just plain rude. If he doesn't want to watch your son now, what will happen in the future.. what happens if you get married? If he doesn't want to take responsibility for your son for a few hours while you go to the dentist, then if you have kids, he'll probably do it then either. I don't think its an issue that the child isn't his... i think maybe he just doesn't like kids at all.
2006-12-23 15:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh... I would NOT feel comfortable leaving my child with someone who is cussing and throwing a fit becuse he has to watch him. Please don't overlook this. He is taking you for granted. It seems that he is happy when he's with his friends but he thinks of you and your son as a burden to his lazy lifestyle. He is probably only "nice" to you later to try to keep you placated and make you keep putting up with his bad attitude.
2006-12-23 16:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is one of those people who unfairly takes things out on you. He is nice and friendly to others, even the assholes, but when around you, he can't be bothered to be civil.
There's really nothing much you can do, many people, especially men are like that. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, just that he is a bit selfish.
Point it out whenever he annoys you with his tantrums and perhaps in time he will come round.
My husband did, although I'm still subject to his grumpiness sometimes.
2006-12-23 16:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do not believe I would be leaving my child with this individual any more. He might be a tad unbalanced, and/or immature and that can be a disaster for a little child. If he acts like a nice guy around his friends, then that is where he needs to be. He obviously cares more for his friends than lending you a hand when you need it. Please see that your child is in someone else's hands when you are not with him.
2006-12-23 16:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Charles & Elizabeth C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT overlook it!!! If he's that openly rude and aggressive to you over it, what does he do or what does he have the potential to do when youre not there? Your son is probably too scared to tell you.
Get rid of him, your son comes first.
2006-12-23 16:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be really stressed out over something. Ask him what the matter is, and if he throws a fit again, throw him out.
2006-12-23 16:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go out and find a guy who loves you and your son? Quit wasting time with losers who obviously do not love you or your son.
2006-12-23 15:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is immature, selfish, sel centered and a grouch. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that?
2006-12-23 16:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he should not be your fiance....doesn't sound like he cares for your child and any man that would treat you and your son like that is not someone you want to spend your life with....move on...find someone who will treat you with love and respect.....both you and your son
2006-12-23 16:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋