i have a bf, who just asked me to marry him, but i haven't answered yet. last month he asked me if i was ready to have sex with him, i said no, but i think manly why he asked me to marry him is because he thinks i will get into bed with him. do u think this is why he wants to get married?
2006-12-23 07:51:46 · 20 answers · asked by Katleen F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are questioning it, then you shouldn't marry him now. If he only wants to marry you to get you in bed, then I don't think he is the right guy for you.
2006-12-23 07:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Janicajayne and Paintedrain have some good points. I'd like to add that a persons words and actions should line up with each other. If a person says one thing and acts another way) or vice verse), then they aren't for real, but if their words and actions match (and not just for a short period of time), then they are a true representation of what that person is about. There are a lot of things to consider in your case. How long have you been dating, how old are you, how old is he, what are your commonalities, how compatible you are. It doesn't sound like you have explored too deeply and if you are talking getting serious to the point of getting married, you had better do so or you are going to end up another divorce statistic... Check it out before you leap like that. Make sure you are onboard with someone else's program as much as they are on with yours.
2006-12-23 16:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by A Good Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'He's making out with your sister, drinking with an underage girl..great. He's a sexy baseball player and your a cheer leader.
He cheats on you with other girls. Acts like he wants to kill you.
Your parents want you to marry him, cause you think you are pregnant. He's 30 and married, cheating on his wife. Your 21, and don't really love him, just like him. 21 yr.old cheerleader??
So now were up to date....Right??Did I skip anything??
Now he wants to know is you are ready for sex.............
What about all the baths together and the hotel rooms??
Guys that are 30 don't go there to watch TV.
Speaking of TV, sell this drama to someone who can believe it.
I live on a horse ranch and this is more crap than I've seen in my life.
Don't make up a stupid story unless you can keep it straight and make it flow. We can't have any fun if we can't follow it.
I don't mind a little fantasy, if I can follow along and keep the
facts straight. Don't write while you're at recess..sweetie.
2006-12-23 16:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What matters to you is the most important thing, and your values may not match those of your friends. That's OK - it's what makes people unique. Having sex to impress someone or to make your friends happy or feel like you have something in common with them won't make you feel very good about yourself in the long run. True friends don't really care whether a person is a virgin - they will respect your decisions, no matter what.
2006-12-23 15:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by iloeta1164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys never talk for themselves. Their ***** do all the talking. If you are not ready for sex. Tell him that even if you got married that that wouldn't change the feeling inside of you that says your not ready.
2006-12-23 15:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by morglovsya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows. If you love him marry him. You could get engaged and tell him you want to wait until you"re married to have sex. You'll find out fast enough if it's just because he wants sex.
2006-12-23 15:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what I think is that if you are asking questions like this, you are not old enough to be getting married and your relationship is not strong enough for marriage....take some more time to get to know each other before you have sex or get married....good luck
2006-12-23 15:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huni if he wants to marry u it's because he want to respect ur answer but make it so u can trust him. just think about it is he the guy that just wants sex or love u and want to spread the rest of his life with u.
2006-12-23 15:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not ready for that type of commitment and responsibility. Do not accuse him of proposing just for the sexual reasons, as you might be wrong about that.
Tell him that you want to take things slow, and that you hope he'd respect that.
2006-12-23 15:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well hmmm i asked my wife when we met she said no so i waited 4 months without asking again we did not wait till we married but she did have to make the move on me , and if you think this is the motive to why he asked you tell him yes if you love him but wait to give it up till he has pleged his life in front of god and all to you
2006-12-23 15:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Brian_Tc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋