2006-12-23 07:51:16 · 17 answers · asked by curiousJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the same reason many single women do not date. They do not want the hassle of a relationship when their children are growing up. And they do not want the hassle of trying to help raise children that are not theirs. Blended families are not easy and it takes a great deal of work. Relationships are already work so this is a added burden. God bless****
2006-12-23 07:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married to a man that had custody of his children. When we got married. Honestly, I was very uninformed about the road ahead of me what I was getting into. But if I had a choice to do it again I would do things a little different but I would do it. I didn't find it difficult to commit myself to him it was the kids I had a problem with. When it was all over three of the four were wit h there mother and I just take it one weekend at a time. Kids scare a lot of men and women because a lot of problems come with that. So it really depends on the person. Me I love a challange so I jump in head first I didn't even look.
2006-12-23 16:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by sun4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not saying this is fact, but when I had custody of my daughter (she's grown now), I actually had a woman tell me that it was money that would be taken away from 'our' relationship (meaning I wouldn't be able to spend it all on her). This is only one woman and obviously a gold digger. As for other women, I don't really know what makes it so tough. Women can pose the same question to men although it is more common that the women are in custody of their children more so than men. In my honest opinion, I think they may see a tie between the man in question and his ex (baby's mom). This can cause for distrust, distance, and non-commitment. That is a hard question to answer. Only the woman you are dealing with is going to have a definite answer for you and the answers are going to vary depending on who you date. Being that ladies generally do not like to hurt feelings, you may not get the total truth because they do not want to hurt you. Good luck on that one!!!
2006-12-23 16:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by A Good Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I am not put off by the fact that a guy has custody of his children. In fact, I think it is quite admirable that a man will step up to the plate and do the traditional care-taking role that the woman usually assumes.
I think that most women feel that they would be the one to end up being the primary caretaker of the mans children....and, they just don't want the responsibility. Also, there are the complications that will inevitably arise in dealing with the childrens mother, etc.
I think that someone who really loves you will also love your children and be more than happy to help you raise them. They are a part of you, afterall.
Hang in there....there really are some good women out there. You and your kids deserve the best!
God bless, and Merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-23 16:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because SOME women do not want the drama and draining situations that come with a man and his damn kids. It's alot of work dealing with a man who has children. And the slightest thing that happens, if the woman shows she's disappointed or she gets angry, right away she's considered "jealous" of the kid(s). It's really such a huge pain in the azz.
And then there's ALWAYS the mom of the kids. No matter what, SHE JUST NEVER GOES AWAY.
My goodness just talking about it makes me feel so much hate. I can't STAND situations like that. They're so SICKENING.
2006-12-23 16:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a difficult time, only a good man would have custody of his children. Maybe it is because you guys already have a house running smoothly without a mom. A woman may feel like there is no place for her and would face resentment and resistance trying to blend in. It may be intimidating.
2006-12-23 15:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the same reason many men have difficulty committing to a woman who has custody of her children. Loads of people are fearful of a "ready made family" and the committment that goes along with that.
2006-12-23 15:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by SusieeQ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many women are hesitant to "sign on" to step children because they realize that stepmothers are often seen as wicked and evil and secondly, the woman of the house is usually the one with the most work and responsibility of and for the kids. I would hesitate too because I would wonder if the man would be supportive of me in disciplining the kids and setting boundaries and if the kids would be resentful of my relationship with their dad.
2006-12-23 15:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of them just don't want to deal with someone elses kids. They feel if they wanted kids they would have them or they want kids but not someone elses. Kids can cramp a lifestyle and if they do not have any kids why would they want to be with somene that did have them and did not have the freedom like they do? Why should a woman want to change lifestyles for someone elses kids?
2006-12-23 15:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by purplegroovyrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way: at least you know up front those women are too selfish for you to have a relationship with.
The right one will come along, it's just going to take time and patience.
2006-12-23 15:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋