ok I am not looking to get married for some time becaus i am only 20. So this guy i have been dating told my friend that he thinks I am the one... and he told my friend to not tell me... but we are best friends so she told me...then he aksed her what I thought about the matter and she didnt tell... now he texted me last night and told me he has something to tell me the next time I see him. I dont feel I could Marry him.... but I do like him i just dont think i could marry him...
how do I tell it in a nice way with out hurting his feelings.... also we both are LDS and he will be leaving on a misson in a few months and he asked me if I would wait for him (* 2 yeas)
2006-12-23 07:47:29 · 13 answers · asked by songbirdchelsea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get carried away. You don't know what he will say to you. You know the way he thinks of you, but maybe it is time to tell him how you feel about him. You jus need to give things time. You might feel differently about him in two months or when he is gone. =)
2006-12-23 07:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by morglovsya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't mention marriage, you might be over-thinking this. If he does propose, tell him that you think he's a great guy, but you are not ready for that type of responsibility yet. That you feel too young to take on that level of commitment.
I am married and 20yrs old. My husband is 21 and in the Navy. It's been wonderful.
But, not everyone is ready for marriage at such a young age, I know that very well. Just make sure you tell him how you feel. If he really loves you, he'll understand and just appreciate you as his girlfriend.
There's no rush to get engaged or married, and you should never feel like there is.
2006-12-23 15:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that this guy cares deeply about you, and that is never a bad thing. I think if you aren't ready for marriage, tell him. You care about him too. And about him leaving for 2 years, tell him that you will keep in touch, but you never know what the future holds. Maybe by that time you two would have grown apart, or perhaps grown closer. You will only know when it happens. And I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, so be straight-forward and say, "I really care about you, but we both already have prior commitments with being LCDs and all.We can always stay in touch, and I hope that this relationship/friendship will stay strong the whole time."
I hope this answer helped you out, and the best of luck between you two.
2006-12-23 16:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all hear him out. and second of all tell him you are not ready for marriage. He shouldn't expect you to wait for 2 years. You are young a lot could happen in two years. Go on about your lives, if in 2 years neither of you are interested in anyone and your paths cross again, go from there. You have already said you are not ready. That's a good indication you are not . So no pressure and be up front and honest with him.
2006-12-23 15:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are not ready to get married right now, but you would be more than happy to communicate with him and see how things turns out.
2006-12-23 15:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how much you really like him. Are your feelings for him enough to wait 2 years?? and is he does ask you to marry him, just tell him how you feel, there is nothing nicer than saying what you really mean.
Good Luck!
2006-12-23 15:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by JenJen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be straight...
1. u like him too.
2. but u r not ready for the commitment for the lifetime right now...not with anyone..
3. we can be in touch for the next 2 yrs and then see how it goes..
4. wiating for 2 yrs ...does not make sense if u are not ready for marriage as of today
2006-12-23 15:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Inquistive_man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel comfortable with ,but he sounds very codependent and that can lead to some very scary behavior.
i wold tell him to see how things go while he is away if it is still strong when he returns go from there .YOU ARE ONLY 20, I got married at 25 and felt that was young
2006-12-23 15:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by sleepy forrest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you feel too young to be getting married and you wanna wait awhile until that you feel that you want to as well.
2006-12-23 15:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be happy he thinks of you that way dont go over board
2006-12-23 15:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by myangel_101211 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋