My sister was using drugs when she had her baby boy a year ago so the child protective services her him away. He was placed in a foster home with a really dirty family that took no care in keeping themselves clean much less the baby. I always complained and kept asking the workers how i could get him in my home. They keep giving me the runaround. Its been a year now and my sister had been doing ok up unit a couple months ago, now she seems to be on the same track. A week ago we found out that the baby was taken from that foster home for some reason. Now he is with unfamiliar people again and my sister could care less. She is only 20 and has to other little boys that live in my home with my mom aslo. They both call me Mommy. Im afraid that my sister is not following through with the requirments to get her baby back. Why isnt the system letting us have him?. What is wrong with this picyure?. I am willing to raise those boys as my own if i had to. She doesnt care about them.
2006-12-23 07:45:58 · 12 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Sweetie, I wish I could help you. It is very hard to get a child out of the system once they've been through it. My brother in law was on trial for murderover a year and a half ago when his wife was killed. He was acqutiied and the killer was found. A year and a half later, he doesn't have his girls. It's not right what they are doing to him and the same with your nephew. My nieces are with their mom's sister, who only has them for the SS check each month. I'd contact a lawyer to get that baby back. Good luck.
2006-12-23 07:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me tell you a true story that happened within my family.
My uncle and his wife wanted and tried to adopt a baby from the wife's sister's girl that could not care for a baby.
That girl (no relation to me) was named Beverly and she had already had 2 kids before the one they were trying to adopt. The 1st kid she had she gave up for adoption, the second one she gave to her mom.
My uncle and aunt tried their dammest to get that baby, went to court and everything but the judge would not let them have the baby.
Do you know what happen to that baby? (Her name was sherry) That baby was smothered to death by it's own mom. (This happened in oak hill, west virginia)
She smothered her own 8 month old baby with a pillow, walked across the street then came back acting like she was checking on the baby and started screaming like she had done nothing wrong. They called 911 and the doctors worked on the baby for 45 minutes but it was too late she was already dead. (See my aunt and uncle were letting the mother stay with them because they wanted to adopt that baby so bad cause they knew she couldn't)
She never did once cry at the funeral home or when they were putting that baby in the ground. My aunt and uncle is the ones that buried that baby, paid for all of that.
At the funeral home Beverly (The baby's mom) had both her husband and boyfriend there. The boyfriend was drunk and almost pulled the casket off of the base. It was so awful. They did she the baby for an autopsy and it came back that the baby (Sherry) was smothered to death and they did take the mom to jail but do you know that she stayed in jail for only a year plus got pregnant by a guard in jail. That is a pathetic shame isn't it? If she hadn't of killed that baby - she would be 17 years old right now.
I do not know where that murderer is now or how many kids she has had since then.
I blame the courts for this (and the mom) my aunt and uncle would have provided that kid with anything. They are church goers and would have took really good care of it like they did their other 3 kids (that are grown now)
On the baby's grave, her headstone just reads 'Sherry" because my aunt and uncle could not bear to put her mothers last name on it.
This was a very sad thing that happened and the courts would rather things like this happen than to give a kid to someone that will take really good care of it.
This happened in 1990 in Oak Hill, West Virginia and i would say somehow you could look it up.
What is wrong with the picture is the courts always thinks that a kid is best with their mom when in fact alot of the times it is not. As you see from the above story.
I hope you get custody. Have a merry Christmas
2006-12-23 08:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The mom virtually constantly gets custody till you at the instant are not worth. The issues you probably did at the instant are not any reason to have your baby taken away. All you probably did became invade his privateness..I in all threat could have carried out a similar element. Beings you and your ex apparently do no longer stay in a similar state having 50/50 custody isn't likely. even nonetheless, he will have a precise to be sure his infant. Is he going to be a sturdy dad? His previous attack fee could help your case with the decide in case you're able to flow to court docket. that is high priced to have a criminal professional and if he resides at domicile together with his momma apparently he would not have money to be on his own so how is he meant to help a baby?? i would not difficulty or tension too lots approximately it. you're wellbeing and the infant's wellbeing is what's important precise now. do no longer forget that and basically ignore appropriate to the SOB cuz of course he's attempting to make you depressing. sturdy success with each and every thing. starting to be to be a mom is the terrific element in the international and do certainly no longer permit anybody take that feeling away!!
2016-10-28 05:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard. My brother's ex has custody of their child even though she has been busted w/ meth, 2 different times. But b/c the child didn't test positive, they won't take him away. I feel for your situation. The only thing I can say is maybe you can try for a foster parent liscence yourself, and foster the boys first then try for adoption. My friend had a foster liscence w/ the option to adopt, and now has adopted 2 children. That might be an idea to try. I wish you good luck, c/ it sounds like the boys would be better off w/ someone who loves them like you do.
2006-12-23 09:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to petition the court for sole custody of the child. Hire a lawyer and do it all officially and legally! Good Luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 11:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Camerons Mama07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see a lawyer or a solicitor and see were u stand because the baby needs a safe home and u being family u have a right to and if ur mum is there then grandmars have rights to look into it good luck hope all goes well
2006-12-23 16:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sara P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you would be to go ahead and get your foster care license and continue to ask about your nephews in the meantime. You will be fare more likely to get these children in your care once you have passed a criminal background check and showed your determination toward caring for them.
2006-12-25 23:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm suprised that the courts didnt award him to you before putting him in foster care..u need to go to family court and petition the courts..the courts as a rule want children with biological family..sounds to me like you have a shot...go to family court..file papers for custody...you dont need an attorney to do that..it costs nothing...you can ask the court clerk besides your sister whom you would have to serve with paper my guess is child protection services would have to be served as well...good luck to you honey
2006-12-23 08:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by diane b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
Your sister need not have any more babies...full stop!
You are a good person, maybe they think you guys have 2 children and 3 would be too much?...I have no idea...but a good lawyer is in need...to give advice....
You sister is bad news....wow.
2006-12-23 07:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like an incredible person. I hope you do get custody. The system is toltally messing with great kids and messing them up. best of luck!!
2006-12-23 10:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋