my boyfriend seams to take me for granted, he expects me to make his tea for him every night, followed by me running him a bath, then in the morning i have to have his clothes washed, ironed and ready for him to get into!! i dont mind doing these thing for him but im feeling a bit used, he actually bit my head off the other day for not making his coffee strong enough?!!
2006-12-23 07:34:25 · 52 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you watch the last Crimewatch about domestic violence? One woman was recorded on the phone to the police as her ex-boyfriend kicked the door down and was heard to say 'It's tonight girl' as he stabbed her to death. Do you want to be just another statistic?
2006-12-23 07:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i can only say what a D**K. Tell him you fill used and say to him how about we swoop place for 1 week and you do it bet the answer is no. I would never dream of letting my gf do all that for me if any thing it's me who does that. if you love some one that much you wont take them for grantidge. Tell him its a relationship that is when two people LOVE AND CARE for EACH OTHER not YOU slave around for him while he relaxes or what ever he does. Go girl put you foot down don't take his S**T any more. LOL
2006-12-23 11:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by shyslop15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do things at home but my husband always the one who is driving. But make a cup of tea any of us will do it for convenient does not have to be me. When I am not well he helps me a lot even ironing, so I know he is not taking me for granted. Try ask him for help do hovering or do some cleaning stuff or just ask him to make you cup of tea. If he is not doing it for you then he is taking you for granted which you do not want if you want to spend most of your life with him.
2006-12-23 07:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough is Enough. Stop being a door mat. More and more things will creep in without you noticing, and things will get worse. A partnership is a two-way thing. Put you're foot down or he won't respect you. What makes you think you're worth less than him.
It may not matter if you liked doing all this for him, but I think you're starting to resent him. And yes. He is using you.
2006-12-23 07:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he just wants to use you but my hubby does the same thing but i dont iron his cloths and run his bath water and i do these things cause he works all day long and i work half days but if he is taking u for granted then u dont need him trust me ive been there and done it
2006-12-23 07:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is unlikely to change, you've got to ask yourself if you are willing to carry on doing all that you do for him, or if it is time for you to leave the relationship. Follow your heart, it does sound like he is taking things a bit far with you - and you are bound to feel taken advantage of. Maybe you need a fresh start alone?
2006-12-23 07:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your bf got it too good for too long.
He needs to see that you're not replacing his mum.
You need to tell him fast and even if it does create rows, do stop for a while all those things he takes for granted;
YOU are not HIS mum or CLEANER.
Do something about it now, or this will definitely spoil the relationship for good.
2006-12-23 07:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess because you've always done it for him, he feels like he can demand such things with you and it'll have no repercussions. I think you're right for feeling put out, he needs to learn to do things for himself, and do things for you now and again. I think it's just a case of confronting him about it, sitting down and having a conversation about the situation, i hope you manage to sort things out! You are most definitely NOT in the wrong!
2006-12-23 07:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by fozz89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...... u have more patience than i do ! just because u love someone, it doesn't give them free reign to use u like they own u ! u sound more like a member of staff than a girlfriend ! does he do anything nice around the house for u ? me & my boyfriend share the household responsibilities.... i do all the cooking / cleaning / laundry, and he does all the gardening, car related stuff and sorts out the paperwork / finances. life is about give and take. and it sounds like he's doing lots of taking, and not much giving. personally, i couldn't put up with it, but that's up to u.
2006-12-23 07:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i think he is the wrong man for u i mean i once had a bf like that and he was nice to me for a while and we loved each other, until one day he asked me to move in with him, i said yes right away and ran off packing. when i was all settled in i went to lay down, and he looked at me with those eyes of his, and then told me he wanted me to be his maid i was suprised but i agreed, he also told me hen would pay me. every day after school he would make me put on this stripper outfit that made me look sexy but i felt very incomfortable. before i went to sleep everynight i had to clean every surface in the house, and around ten thurty he would make me slap him right in the butt so he would feel naughty, after a couple of night i wanted to quit and i told him, and he said that i can't quit. and from then i regreated saying that cause from then on he made me climb in bed with him and take my close of and put a condom on his dick. i finally dumped him through a judge. what this story explains is that u shouldn't do that to urself find a man who loves u more then u love him, so he willl respect u
2006-12-23 07:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Katleen F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋