I just walked in and my husband is doing things to himself while our three year old is running around and our two year old is sleeping on the couch.
I instantly got pissed off and sick to my stomach and when I start yelling he said that I was over reacting. He said that she was in her bedroom and the other sleeping and they didn't see anything, but it makes me so mad that I could cry.
Need advice.?!
2006-12-23 07:31:10 · 20 answers · asked by tragedys_eyes 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm sorry, but as a mother, I would over react as well. A real father does not do that kind of behavior in front or near their child. No matter how young they are. Children learn that type of behavior from their parents. And how can you become so aroused and into yourself with the children around? And if the 3 year old came into the room, he should've stopped immediately.
2006-12-23 07:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. No decent parent would be masterbating with kids around, no matter how young or even if one was napping. I would have him talk with a counslor or a pastor. If he can't even wait, until the kids bedtime for that kind of thing, it could be the begining of a sexual addiction problem. I only say that because my husband was the same way. He's go in our bedroom while he was supposed to be watching the kids and "do his thing". I'd come home from work and see him on porn websites while our kids were right next to him watching..Oh man, did I blow up then. It got worse and worse. So if I were you, I'd try to nip it in the bud. (This was 2-2.5 yrs ago. Things got much better after marriage counseling.) Good luck and God Bless.
2006-12-23 11:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're overreacting a bit. He should have been watching them more closely, that's the issue. What he was doing behind the closed door really isn't. He wasn't drinking or doing drugs, he was relieving the stress of caring for the 2 little kids the only way some men know how. They're men, they're very physical and not always so bright.
2006-12-23 09:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you definitely are not over-reacting! That is serious! Your children do not need to be exposed to stuff like that, especially from their own father. What's your husband's explanation going to be when both the kids are running around saying "My daddy sits on the couch and plays with his pee-pee"! Not only is it embarrassing to you, but it could cause someone to get suspicious and possibly call the DCFS. They may not have seen anything THIS time, but if he continues to be so "public" about it, eventually they will.
2006-12-23 07:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by chickmomma5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that was probably a little inappropriate of him there. Could he not have gone somewhere private (bathroom, for example) to do that? I probably would have been pretty irate, too. I don't know what advice to give you, other than to ask him to do those things behind a closed door rather than out in the open where one of the kids might see it. Just because they didn't this time doesn't mean they won't if he chooses to do that again.
2006-12-23 07:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by ckmclements 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting at all. He is the father and he should know there is a time and place for everything. It is not that they could see him, but that he couldn't see them. I have a two year old who is almost three and they get into everything almost instantly. If one of them had gotten hurt he wouldn't have known because he was busy. I would definatley put my foot down.
2006-12-23 09:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by breezymourn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not have been a happy campy, either. I am not sure yelling at him did much good, though. When things die down a bit, try expressing your concerns to him in a non-confrontational way (calmly and rationally). That is all you can do. The point isn't that they didn't see him, it is the fact that they could have and it wouldn't have been fair to them. As a grown man, he knows full well that his children's needs (should) come before his. At least in this case, he could have been less "open" about it.
2006-12-23 07:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by highventuregirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your husband needs to go into the bedroom/bathroom/ANY other room with the door shut and locked when he wants to do that. He could have possibly subjected the three year old to what he was doing and that wouldn't have been good.
2006-12-23 07:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Delvala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have said nothing. I do think however, that if he NEEDED to have sex with himself then he should have gone into a room with a lock on the door and QUICKLY (we all know that it's possible) take care of it while keeping an ear out for the children. I would not talk of this in front of the kids and I would drop the subject with him as well.
2006-12-23 07:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jodi O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, you are not over reacting at all, i dont think. The child who was awake could have walked in at any time and does not need to see things of that sort. I think you should explain to hubby those type of things need to be done in the privacy of your bedroom and not when any child is awake in the home. Good luck to you.
2006-12-23 07:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋