I am almost 9 weeks into my pregnancy. My boyfriend is in the military and we talked about what we were going to do with the baby. He told me that he is not ready for a child and not ready to get married but I dont want to give the baby up either. I dont know if I want to be a single parent.. Any ideas on what to do
2006-12-23 07:15:25 · 9 answers · asked by Panda Baby 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my boyfriend is moving out of the country in the next year
2006-12-23 07:32:22 · update #1
I have twin daughters, so my response will be a little biased. While it is difficult at times, I would never want to be without my babies and feel so blessed to have them in my life. If you have the support from parents, siblings or close friends, definitely have the baby. You have a precious gift inside of you. :)
2006-12-23 07:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Charleygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend said almost the same thing. He wanted me to get rid of the baby. We ended up breaking up and I kept my baby. He was there when he was born so even though he didn't want the baby then, he wants him now. Your boyfriend will take one look at your baby and will change his mind too. I have 2 boys and I'm a single parent its definately not easy and you'll get stressed out. It helps to have some family or friends to help out or just to have adult conversation sometimes. But trust me once you have that baby you won't be able to imagine your life without it and you'll love that baby more than anything in the world. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-12-23 07:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make this decision for the child, not for yourself or the baby's father. You may not WANT to be a single parent, but we don't always get life the way we want it. If he doesn't want to be involved, that's his decision. But don't base your decision on what he's going to do. If you want to keep the child, keep it. You might have to be a single parent, but it's better than giving up a child and regretting it for the rest of your life. BUT if you think the child would be better with someone else than give it up for adoption, unless you were thinking about abortion, that's your choice.
2006-12-23 12:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be selfish. The best thing to do for the baby is give it up for adoption to a two parent home where he/she can have a mother and father to giude her through life and someone to walk her down the aisle.
If you aren't even going to consider that option move close to your parents so your child can have a father figure.
Don't think about an abortion please! That could be the genius who cures cancer in your tummy- you never know.
Try your best to think about what is best for the baby at this point. Hope I've helped!
2006-12-23 10:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart says, he will have to help you at least with money. You may have help from family or go to all the classes and clubs and you may find more single mothers, so you can support each other. Hope this helps
2006-12-23 07:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the support, have the baby. You will never regret it and he being in the military, will aLWAYS pay you the child support you are entitled to.
2006-12-23 07:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by megan p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby... if possible get one of your close relatives to adopt then when u feel that ur ready get the baby back
2006-12-23 08:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should keep the child. be a single mom, you can do it! its going to be hard, but eventully everyone gets through it.
2006-12-23 07:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart is telling you to do regardless of what others may think
2006-12-23 07:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋