Ok so my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a few months.
I really like him and I love being with him. The only thing i dont like is the way he dresses.. He will ware like the same jeans everytime I see him and ware a tee shirt.. Not Cute at all... I like guys who are preppy and care what they look like but he is lacking in that department... He aslo has these shoes that hes had for years and they are UGLEY..... Now my problem is that i dont know how to tell him it bothers me without him thinking that i think he dresses bad.... what do I do
2006-12-23 07:00:42 · 26 answers · asked by songbirdchelsea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's pretty shallow for you to make such a big deal about his clothes but if you feel so strongly about it, drag him to the mall with you and take him to some stores you like. Show him what you think will look good on him.
2006-12-23 07:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is young and living at home, this may be all that he has. And if he is older you can not just change the style of his dress. If you want a man who dresses in a certain way, you should find him an date him. You don't date someone then try to change any ting about them. And if he is a good person and treats you well, you are being a bit superficial. God bless****
2006-12-23 15:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no nice way to tell a guy that you don't like the way he dresses - no matter how you say it, he will take it the wrong way. So, either accept that you're dating a jeans and t shirt guy and don't try and change him, or find youself a preppy guy to date. It's just that simple - you cannot change a guy.
2006-12-23 15:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if it was the other way around? What if he said he wished you dressed more like him; would you change for him and wear t-shirts and jeans that only he liked? My boyfriend used to try to get me to wear tighter clothes for him and I hated it. I told him he should accept me for who I am. Over the years, he backed off and I opened up a little. He asked me (in a nice way) if he could get me a few special outfits for me to wear around him. I agreed as long as it was something I was comfortable with. You could do the same with your b/f. You could say you want him to be comfortable and feel like "himself," but you were wondering if you could get him something special to dress up in. Then take him shopping and give him a few options so he can choose the outfit he likes best out of the ones you like. If he doesn't want to, respect his decision because you should love him for who he is.
2006-12-23 16:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a men's magazine and have it on your table. Ask him which outfit does he like, style, color? If he says I don't know, then turn to a page and show him something. State I bet you would look good in this outfit. Go to a clothing store and tell him just for kicks try this outfit on. I would like to see how you would look in this outfit.
If you are really serious about this guy, buy him a shirt that you think he would look good in.
2006-12-23 15:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by D S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eeekkk... that's a hard one. I resist changing others to meet my needs but I agree that once my husband was dressing obnoxiously. It was not normal for him but he began wearing these old cutoffs with so many holes that it showed far more than it was suppose to. Then he would wear his shirt unbuttoned and tied at the waist to pick me up at work. I worked for a computor software company. I told him to dress properly and he refused. I threw away the shorts and sat in the middle of the street and screamed. I could not get his attention. Well, I don't recommend this action as this is not your husband yet but perhaps you could go with him shopping. Just matter of factly take charge of his shopping and clothes. Explain that's your department and expertise. Pretend it's your off hour job... to show others how to spiff up their wardrobe. At one time my husband and I were so much alike they thought we were twins but he was acting out. I believe the woman is the chief of comfort and that means chief of wardrobe... chuckle. It's her responsibility to see that everyone is comfortable in the right enviornment. go for it. with confidence. Let him worry about offending you. ha. turn it.
2006-12-23 15:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It boils down to this, if you both are in love and care for eachother and are very open with eachother you need to just sit him down and tell him that you have a problem with the way he dresses.
You can buy him a outfit and he should hopefully clue in. Does he have other clothes? Buy him some new shoes and throw out the old.
2006-12-23 15:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's Christmas! Buy him new clothes and then in the future, watch for sales and suggest a day of shopping, lunch, etc and then help him picks things out. Make sure to tell him when he is in the other nicer clothes how much you like them and how sexy you think he looks, how they tuen you on, etc...
2006-12-23 15:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by megan p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy him a new outfit for Christmas time. Do not tell him that you dislike his fashion sense, because, well...it's his clothes, and you have no control over that.
Loving someone means loving their flaws, and not living up to your sense of fashion, is included in that.
You cannot make someone change.
2006-12-23 15:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Child. We women want to change everyone. I was like you. In the long-run he's going to be a retard in other ways and this will stress you out. Do you want a lifetime of stress? I went through this and I dont recommend you staying with him. Good luck.
2006-12-23 15:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by crazyloonynice 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋