my daughter wrote me a letter telling me she she was pregnant with twins and she is 7 months she said i never noticed nothing and said i was a mean mother...i didnt act mean with her but she was mad this was 3 days ago yesterday we went to the hospital because she was having contractions every 5 to 10 minutes well she ended up having to stay in the hospital and is gonna have a c-section today around 5 or 6..do u think i acted to nice to her or do u think i shouldve acted more mad also do u think she started having these pains because she got scared and depressed on what i was gonna say???
2006-12-23 05:28:35 · 15 answers · asked by emma c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
guys remember she is having a c-section today because they may not survive
2006-12-23 05:35:26 · update #1
She is 7 months preg w/twins and you never noticed??? How was she hiding it? If she was starving herself or dieting to hide it that maybe the cause of her problems now. You are justified to be upset that she got pregnant but you should also be supportive of her, if her babies survive (and I am praying for you both that they do.) she is going to need alot of your help and support one baby @15 is hard and twins that are preemies are going to be way more hard to deal with. If she was stressing about telling you and your reaction then that may have caused her to go into premature labor. Good luck to all of you.
2006-12-23 06:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by lizincali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I did the same thing to my mother when I was a teenager. However I wasn't that far along. I really doubt that she started these contractions all on your fault. Probably has a lot to do with the fact that she is an UNDER AGED having TWINS! I'm sorry but I find it hard to believe that you never noticed she was pregnant, may'be this is the very reason she ended up this way. She possible needed a little more attention and affection from her parents. Are the fathers of these children around? I know things will turn out good in the end, when you both grow up a bit. My situation turned out great!
2006-12-23 05:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by buterbuny2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say that it is a little to late to even begin to think about whether or not you were to nice to her. I was sitting here reading all of the answers you got back and all I can say to most of those is what is wrong with you people. Just because you didn't notice doesn't make you a bad mom. A real good friend of mine hid her pregnancy until she went in labor it's not hard to do. Hence bigger clothes duh!! What can a mom say oh my god are you pregnant. I mean style changes. Right now all you can do is be there and show your support. Thats what makes you a good mom. Being there when you are needed the most. I will pray for you and your daughter as well as the babies and don't worry as long as you put it in Gods hands they will be ok. As far as the pains they could have been caused by stress but if god wanted them to happen they would have regardless. He has a reason for everything he does.
2006-12-27 04:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by alilkntrygal27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, the only you can do is be helpful and supportive to your daughter. The way you reacted was neither too mean or too nice. Continue to be with her throughout these last months of the pregnancy, and show that you care and love her. You can't do anything about this at this point, so the best thing to do is turn this into something positive, but at the same time, do not encourage her to have any more babies. She is young. Hope she is doing well and has a healthy baby. Remember your role at this moment is to love.
2006-12-23 05:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you were a mean mother, she wouldn't have been pregnant in the first place.
Typically, the "meaner" you are, the more restrictions she'll have. (ie: not going out, no partying, etc)
Why don't you ask her WHY she thinks that you are mean.
Also, it is VERY possible that she was stressing out and that is what helped to cause the contractions.
For the next few months, try being as friendly as possible. Be her mother, but treat her more as an adult. She IS a mother now as well, so set a good example.
2006-12-23 05:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about the past. You need to focus on your daughter and what she is going through right now. She will definitely need help taking care of these 2 babies.
I think you are being mean by not being with her right now and showing your support. Is she lying in the hospital by herself scared awaiting the birth of her 2 babies. I would be terrified and I'm grown up. I would be VERY mad at my mother if she left me at the hospital before I was about to go in for major surgery and she was on Yahoo!.
2006-12-23 05:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Cadillac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her tons of love and support. If you will not be there to help her with these children then suggest putting them up for adoption quickly.
It's a hard thing to do, but they will be better off if given a stable home from the beginning than if they wait a year or two in a bad situation first.
2006-12-23 05:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your 15 year old daughter is pregnant with twins & is 7 months along with TWINS, she has physical things obviously happening to her. Are you telling me she made it to 7 months pregnant with 2 babies & you just didn't notice her stomach getting bigger? Don't try that "she wasn't showing" crap. Wow. You need to pay more attention to your kids so they don't end up in this situation. Take a parenting class. I hope she goes with you so she can be a better mother.
2006-12-23 05:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's already happened now, so don't get mad, hopefully you'll be blessed with two grandchildren! Stand by her side, and show her a lot of attention, maybe you can plan a little baby shower after you bring them home? Goodluck
2006-12-23 11:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Wonderious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she said that because she was more sensitive because she's pregnant. A co-worker was surprised one day by her 15 yr old, with being a grandmother. She had no idea.
2006-12-23 05:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by mykl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋