he has been unfaithful,unloyal,disrespectful.i am not that way.i have been true.he has asked me to hold on and that he's changing.how can that be possible?he claims he's never been in love till now.no one has ever put up with his games and stayed by his side till now huh?his cheating has caused me to move out and get my own place.he is still holding on and i dont what for?he's asking me to be to be patient ,how much am i supposed to take?am i being foolish?since i already made that 1st. step to move out .,should i now move on despite my love?am i being impatient?i asked him why is he holding on to me and he says because he cares and loves me and i am teaching him to change his ways in ways i am not even aware of. is that a crock of bull**** or what?
2006-12-23 05:21:28 · 13 answers · asked by nicki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you will help him change more by leaving him, getting a divorce and taking half his stuff. he will learn that his actions can come back and bite him in the ***. i would not hold out for someone like that. he see's that he can get away with anything he wants and you have enforced that already so he will never treat you with the respect and honor you need because he knows he can get away with it. move on.
2006-12-23 05:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by cesar g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON!!! If he really loved and cared for you he would not be doing ANY of those things!! Once a cheater always a cheater!!! He does not deserve you and you don't deserve to be put through the emotions of it all! Be patient? I think you have been and now enough is enough! I know it's hard especially if you love him but he doesn't care for you! Go out with your girlfriends and have a great time! Don't take his calls and don't have anything to do with him. It only makes things harder for you. Eventually he'll get the hint and leave you alone!
2006-12-23 13:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by onfire921 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. He's not going to change. He's just saying that because he doesn't want you to dump his ***. He knows no one else would put up with his crap. But you should dump him because there is someone MUCH better out there. Even though it may be hard, you need to move on now to save yourself more grief in the future. Have some respect for yourself.
2006-12-23 13:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by cellardoor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever expect a man to change. It just wo't happen. Move on and find someone who deserves you. Cut the chains and put in the earplugs. It will be painful, but this too shall pass.
I had to do the same thing last year and it was the best thing I ever did.
2006-12-23 13:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You would be a fool if you put up with his mess. No man is worth being played like that. You should not even put yourself through something like that. You are to precious and your life will end one day and you need to live the best of it.
2006-12-23 13:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Shameka j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy has serious issues, one of them, it seems, is the need to control you. By waiting out and not moving on, you are allowing him to control you, to keep you right under his thumb.
Don't play his games anymore. Move on.
2006-12-23 13:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by wnk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from my own past experience he will not change enough to make a good lasting relationship you should move on and find another
2006-12-23 13:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by M JOHNS 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let go of him and love yourself instead. it might hurt at first but later on, you will feel such relief.
you are also losing your chance to meet great guys...
2006-12-23 13:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him one last chance
if he still continues wid the crap kick his A S S n move out
2006-12-23 13:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by coolashluv 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that he is not faithful cuz you already give him his chance and he totally failed. If you don't feel you don't have desire for him any more...leave him.
2006-12-23 13:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by <3Vasudha Loves Yhu(; 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋