why am i so sad this christmas season? My parents split up two weeks ago but still live in the same building just that they not compatible anymore. Neither of them wants me there for xmas and ya i just moved to so i dont know many people. I going to a church and one lady invited me over to her home for xmas but i dont really know her i am happy to go but scared and nervous too. My brain is telling me not to go but i dont wanna be alone, but it hurts to see others get presents and stuff. Why do i feel this way i know i shouldnt. help!
2006-12-23 05:08:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
oh i am 22 years old
2006-12-23 05:09:08 · update #1
Bloody hell....regardless of your parents going their separate ways, they should still want you there at Christmas. As their child you ought to be put in the difficult position of having to decide which parent to spend the holiday with. Instead they are making you feel alone and unwanted. Shame on them!!
This is a difficult time of year for many, and this disinterest shown by your parents only compounds the sadness of the season.
I think it's great that you've received an invitation for Christmas from someone. It doesn't matter that you don't know her well. All friendships start from not knowing the other person well. It won't be the same as spending Christmas with your parents, but since they have obviously failed you in that area this year, take the opportunity to experience the warmth of another person's heart and home.
2006-12-23 05:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've got a whole bunch of stuff going on right now...it's natural for you to feel pretty down. This a season that's charged with a lot of high emotional expectations. Don't feel bad that you feel less than perfectly happy.
I suggest that you go to lunch at the lady's house. It'll be hard, and it's ok to be nervous...but it'll be a good way for you to get out and do something different and make new friends. Enjoy what you can...do the best you can.
And try to have a Merry Christmas.
2006-12-23 13:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by gypzndog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I'm Separated, twice divorced, kids are in another state with their mother. You are not alone, it's the worst time of the year for depression for most people. I think you outa go over to the ladies house that invited you. You have church & God is with you. Sure tour nervous but I say go spend some time at her house, if your too uncomfortable slip out by saying you have to stop by somewhere else. It's better than being alone. No it's not the same as it was but it never is as you get older. Good luck to you. If ya need to talk see my profile & contact me.
2006-12-23 13:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Blues Man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be suffering with SAD or Seasonal Affective Disorder. This is caused by low light conditions and reduces the levels of endorphins in the brain causing a mild depression. Also, the Holidays raise a lot of false expectations of family and friends gathering. Often it is not all it is cracked up to be. It will be over soon, so buck up and have a glass of cheer.
Happy Holidays
2006-12-23 13:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holiday blues are very common. I think it's best you spend time with others, if not for you, than for them. Consider it a favor to the people who have been kind enough to invite you. Buy a small hostess gift like some pretty candles and off you go! Holiday blues can stem from being alone, from painful holiday memories or from focusing on the things you do not have. Please go, be with some people. You may feel like you dont want to go, but I assure you, it will be a pleasant experience.
2006-12-23 13:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by brandihoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see the Lady for an Hour or So
If you get on OK then stay longer
If not come back to Yahoo
There will be Millions in the Same Situation
2006-12-23 13:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by uksawatdii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a rough stretch now. Keep in mind that this, too, shall pass. I think you should either take that person up on their invitation or go volunteer at a soup kitchen. It might help you to help others. Take care and I hope things get better for you soon.
2006-12-23 13:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i feel really sad for you.. it's unfortunate that it happened at this time of the year.. it's natural for you to be feeling a bit low.. i'd say that you should go to lunch at tis lady's place on christmas.. it might cheer you up for a while.
hope things get better for soon.
2006-12-23 15:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by *bling* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're forgetting the reason for Christmas. We're NEVER truly alone...God is always with us. There are probably lots of people like me who would be happy to invite you to our house for Christmas. :)
2006-12-23 13:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Secret Agent of God (BWR) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋