I have been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs. I am 28 he is 41. Everything was fine until he went back to work for his family. Now his brother is not paying him and owes him about $3000. Every attempt on my part to help him get a different job has falled upon deaf ears. I live with him in his home and because I don't have enough money to leave and get my own place I have to move to my grandmother's home. I don't know what I should do. Any advice would be very appreciated. Also who do I contact if I believe he will give me problems if I move out?
2006-12-23 05:06:05 · 8 answers · asked by marylou6996 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok I see alot of good points from people but the reason why I am asking this question is because I am a full time student and I work 42 hours a week and now he wants me to find another part time job since he is too old to find another job. Believe me I have been playing all the good with the bad in my head over and over. That is why I am asking people's opinion on this matter.
2006-12-24 12:08:01 · update #1
You'll never know the life you are missing by staying with someone who doesn't have the same determination for making his life better as you do. So what if you have to move in with your grandma? Do it and begin to get your life on the track you want it to be on.
2006-12-23 05:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your man, don't leave. A harsh reality is that you cannot change a person and make them do what YOU think is the best thing to do. Let your man handle his own situations. You can suggest & give advice or talk about things but you cannot make him do anything. You also may not want to leave him just because he isn't getting a different job. He may not want to get a different job right now - he may be happy right where he is. Also, what if you leave him and then he goes & gets a different job? Then you'll want to come back to him? And what if he doesn't want you because you left him when things got rough? Hang in there - every relationship has ups & downs - trust me, I know LOL
2006-12-23 13:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, so you are leaving him because he is working for his family and not getting paid? If that is the case that is kinda a lame excuse to leave someone over. His job and how he's getting paid are his business. As long as he's taking care of his portion of the bills you should leave it be.
If you think he'll give you problems moving out - do it when he's not around and have a friend or male relative come and help you out.
2006-12-23 13:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL, WHY WOULD YOU ONLY LEAVE JUST BECAUSE OF MONEY, ARE YOU GUYS BROKE? CAN'T PAY BILLS? WHY CAN'T YOU GET A JOB AND HELP HIM . A RELATIONSHIP GOES TWO WAYS, IT'S A FAMILY BUSINESS YOU KNOW HE'S GOING TO HELP AND I'AM SURE HE WANTS YOU BY HIS SIDE SO STOP WINING AND HELP HIM HELP YOU.. AND IF YOU ARE NOT A STRONG ENOUGH WOMAN LEAVE, GET YOUR LOCAL POLICE/SHERIFF TO HELP AND SOME OTHER GOOD WOMEN WILL REAP YOUR BENEFITS....
2006-12-23 17:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by jakhiamylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave
Grandma would (should be a welcome relief) she is more fun that what you got now.
The sheriff usually helps you with restraining orders. But any woman's help groups.
2006-12-23 13:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave...
Call the police if he harrasses you...
2006-12-23 13:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PACK UP AND GO TO YOUR KIND GRANDMOM'S PLACE..YOU DO NOT NEED ALL THIS TURMOIL. IF THERE ARE PROBLEMS, YOU GO TO COURT FOR A RESTRAINING ORDER. GOOD LUCK, BE STRONG....
2006-12-23 13:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay if you love him
2006-12-23 13:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋