My older sister is 15 years older then me, and I feel like she's constantly competeing with me. She recently got a divorce and wants to act like she's my age, wants to date guys my age, dress like me and compare our lives....If i diet so does she, If I get my hair highlighted so does she, a cute guy flirts with me and it's because she turned him down first!! It's so frustrating...
2006-12-23 04:55:00 · 11 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
HAHAHAHA! Your sister is an insecure sl*ut. She is competing with you to make herself feel better. You should tell her how pathetic she is for even placing herself in the same position that you are in. Or, maybe she just wants to bond with you.
2006-12-23 05:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I have an aunt who competes with practically every relative in the family. She and my sister are close in age, and it started out with competing with her-my sister wanted to go to nursing school, but my aunt got there first to become a respitory therapist (although I think she's really just an assistant), then my mom wanted to get involved with real estate, and my aunt copied her interests, but decided it wasn't for her, she then wanted to become an interior decorator and a wedding dress seller or whatever it was. The career competition came to a halt when she started thinking "babies" she has 2 now and 3rd on the way, and now the target will more than likely be me, her niece, who has a nice job as a teacher's assistant and is now pregnant (due the same time as her!) the positive thing? She lives out of state, so I don't have to put up with her nonsense, or the devotion of the other side of the family. There's a lot more twisted things she does, but I simply nod my head and smile. Your sister in law must be a very insecure person, who holds a lot of jealousy towards others and may not have goals of her own. So, I wouldn't feel anger, I'd just feel sorry for her. Pity her for she can't take the great life you have. Good luck.
2016-05-23 01:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She competes with you because she really wants to be like you. Sometimes people hate on those they wish were like. Don't pay any mind. And as far as her dating youner guys, hey she got a divorce, she wants to feel desirable. The phase will pass. Be the classier of the two and just ignore her.
2006-12-24 14:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by -Bibee- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all the answers you got were good.
Divorce is horrible and now it's the holidays (ugh, the worst). She probably would love to go back and have some fun without the stress of adulthood. Sometimes it takes a person a while to realize they can't.
Tell her you love her. Throw your arms around her and tell her you love her. She needs it, believe it or not.
You are a wonderful sister and she is blessed to have you.
2006-12-23 05:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by autimom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She most likely is not the only one competing with you. You only notice her competing because you were always around her. I think your so liked, loved and beautiful that bieng around you people want to better themselves. You are a princess. So, she wants to be like you, young, beautiful, and smart. It seems more like she looks up to you. Even if she is much older. Seems more like a compliment... irritating... but a compliment. Obviously she can always keep "competing with you", but in the end, no matter what... you will always win. :-)
2006-12-26 11:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Richie Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister just got a divorce & is unsure who she's supposed to be; She's trying to find herself. You must have a mindset that she wishes she had and so feels that by immitating you she'll find her way as you have. Give her time, I'm sure divorce & a new lifestyle is hard. If it continues then maybe you should talk to her about it.
2006-12-23 05:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mishee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 15 years older than you, she should act more her own age. It could be she is in need of help from a mental health profressional. I strongly urge her to get it.
2006-12-23 05:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is difficult to know the reason with so little information about you and your sister. It maybe a hangover from childhood which she didnt manage to grow out from. it is possible that when you were born attention was diverted to you which made her jealous.
2006-12-23 05:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by adventure_mango 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years older?
Wow. She needs therapy. I think. Maybe she's depressed and mentally unstable.
2006-12-23 04:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Nao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going through a hard time in life. she probably seeshow successful your life is, and is jealous. Just don't take her with you to meet guys if thats what is making her jealous.
2006-12-23 05:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋