My bf is better than me in every aspect. He is borned in a rich family, he is smart and is studying in a good college now. He is gd looking and everything. And this gives me a lot of unnecessary stress. And apparently, he wants his future spouse to be of the 'same standard' as him which I dun think I can make it. I'm born in a poor family and my results ain't fantastic. I'm scared tat I wont be able to make into a University. He didn't voice out tat he wants me to go uni, but I can feel. And I'm damn stressed up and upset. Why I couldn't be there with him?
2006-12-23 04:52:10 · 10 answers · asked by michelledarlingal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he breaks up with you, you can't prevent it. You can't be someone you're not. Work hard for yourself not for ANYONE else.
And for gods sakes GET SOME SELF CONFIDENCE. No one likes a limp noodle.
2006-12-23 04:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey cheer up not everyone gets everything just be who you are even if your born into a poor family there is nothing wrong with that are who you are its what you do with yourself if your boyfriend loves you he should have no shame and accept you of as you really are God put you with the family you have for a reason dont be ashamed of them either and hey not everyone is born to be the best looking you can be and be the most dumbest in the world but everyone has something worth sharing about and if your boyfriend wants a smart girl or more popular or rich thats his problem not yours he is not worth a damn just because he can afford a university he should be stressing not you and also not over you catch my drift
2006-12-23 05:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by russellpeltierjr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not better than you. He's had some advantages you have not had. Some of the greatest people have come from poor or middle class families. He sounds like a real jerk. I think he just wants you to feel inferior to him. The more people he can put down the greater it makes him feel. He sounds like he is more insecure than you are. Remember it's his parents that have the money not him. Money does not make you a better person. You can go to the University is you really want to. Just study and apply yourself. If you don't have the money for college check into financial aid or start out at a junior college. Remember you are the greatest person on this earth.
2006-12-23 05:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by mjorod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy loves his "standards" more than he loves you. He's not worth it.
You need to find someone who has common goals, common interests, and finds the same things important as you do. Family is very important, and if he or his family is ashamed of you, your family, or your upbringing, then that WILL cause problems in the future.
You're at the dating stage now... he's supposed to be making you feel like a princess, like you're the only girl in the world and the best person for him. It sounds to me like he's bringing you down and causing you more frustration than happiness. Is that really how you want to live your life???
2006-12-23 04:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all stop running that race. You have to go and do the best you can at what ever you get into. What ever it is. REALLY. Because if you are the best garbage man YOUR STILL THE BEST.
Get you crap together I have friend that have gone to better schools that me and they are not doing crap a dap dap.
Be that best st what you are doing and your compition (THAT'S IN YOUR HEAD WILL FADE)
Right now you think he is your compition but he's not.
You are your own compition right now.
SHAKE IT OFF BABY BOY AND BE THE BEST YOU!
because the best you is still worthy of what ever you want.
Decide how to work what you have into the best and you will be cool.
Big things have come from less fortunate. Take it from a black woman. I have seen little ghetto children grow into lawyers, and 2 into Doctors.
All you have to do is decide, stick to it and go for it.
FOR REAL
2006-12-23 04:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you giving yourself unneccessary gray hairs for? He's with you because he sees something about you that he likes. If you feel your not good enough for him then your going to have to deal with your lack of self-esteem on your own. Just because he does well with somethings, you must do well with other things. So stop beating yourself up for nothing. If you don't work on your esteem issues you will most likely lose him anyway. Good luck and happy holidays
2006-12-23 05:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U tell him that u feel like this and notice his response.Take a decision soon, don't feel stress for this. If he can't accept you as you are then there is no point to continue this relation...
2006-12-23 04:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by @rrsu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you set a date for the wedding yet? If not, then just enjoy your "better than you" bf until he meets his blue blood true love..
Or why don't you dump him now so he can't dump you first.
2006-12-23 04:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to kiss your ***, no one is better than anyone else and all humans are made out of dirt.
2006-12-23 04:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone who doesn't stress you out...
2006-12-23 04:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by jh_sakura 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋