I just got out of a relationship. He was NOT the right guy for me. I don't want to get back together, but I miss him and I love him. This really hurts. Going out to the bars all the time isn't going to help. I don't want to just pick up somebody else. What do I do to help me move past this?? No, I don't want revenge or anything like that. I just want to be happy.
2006-12-23 04:51:11 · 3 answers · asked by What would you do? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u do things u have always want to do.go to yoga classes,swimming or even go clubbing with ur friends,things will only get better with time that is all u need.
2006-12-23 04:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by marsha w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up a hobby. Doesn't matter much what it is - dancing, archery, adult education...
This will take your mind off things, get you out of the house, and put you in a situation where you are meeting new people. The odds are that one of those new people may introduce you to someone who will introduce you to someone else who will make you very happy.
Specifically searching for a new partner is a sign of desperation, and you tend to get the desperate if you try it. Extending the range of things you do and the people you meet while doing them will bring you into contact with those who have more depth than that, and give you things to talk about that make you more attractive and interesting.
It always surprises me that people get so desperate to find someone new when they've just parted company with someone. Being with someone is great, but being single is fun too - you can do exactly as you please. Enjoy both states as they arise, and you will always be happy. I love being in a relationship. I love being single. It isn't true that one is bad and the other is good. Both have pros and cons.
Enjoy your single status to do those things you have always wanted to do. Along the way, you'll meet plenty of fine gentleman prospects - usually just as soon as you stop actively looking.
2006-12-23 13:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Andromeda_Bloodaxe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Healing takes time and you're still attached to old emotions.
The best thing to do is to hang out with friends and family. Although try and stay away from couples. It'll just remind you of the old life.
Make the best out of your single life. Do things with your single friends. Keep yourself going so that you won't have time to think about him.
I know it's going to be hard and it will take some time. Good luck.
2006-12-23 12:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lotii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋