He is 4 and he very mean to me. He tells me he hates me and cusses alot please help!!!! Thank You
2006-12-23 04:42:03 · 16 answers · asked by Tegan G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Punishment is neccesary. Spare the rod spoil the child, i believe it says in the Bible. u can not continue to accept this type of behavior and expect that he'll grow out of it. you've gotta attack the problem head on, beginning with the removal of privileges. no PlayStation/X box. No Tv. No extracurricular activities (karate or whatever). Time outs. and if none of that works spankings. if u don't set the precedent this kid'll be puttin his foot in your @ss when he turns 12.
2006-12-23 04:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your son at preschool? If he is, ask his teacher if anything is going on in class? Is he having trouble with someone there? Does he behave this way outside the home too?
If there's a problem outside the home too, then you need to think about evaluation with a professional or with the school district--if it's good.
You don't say when this is happening, like at the dinner table, at bedtime, all the time, whatever.
Spanking may not work. Put him in a naughty chair or in the corner and set the timer. (Timers are a wonderful thing) When he's calmed down, talk to him about what your expectations are.
If he is still throwing a fit, you may want to send him back to a corner OR take away a favorite toy for the rest of the day or even overnight. If he sleeps with something (like a toy or blanket), that's even better.
We had to send our youngest son to his room during dinner and he didn't eat with us. He ate afterwards. We've never had to do it again.
Raising a kid is really, really hard--you'll find your answers. God bless!
2006-12-23 05:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go down to his level and talk to him. Something obviously is bothering him and this is the only way he knows how to express himself. Maybe you need to get more involved with your child. About the cussing well that's because someone in the home is doing a lot of so he has picked it up. Children learn from what they see and hear. I think an adult is out of control in your home and your 4 year old is picking up negative behavior. Seek professional help.
2006-12-23 04:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every x he tells you " I hate you!" answer in a loving way:
"You can hate me all you want, I still love you and will always love you" Every uses profanity explain that "It is not acceptable in this house & in front of me" - use a (loving but firm tone of voice he is only 4 years old) If you continue I will take priviledges away from you. Priviledges work better than time-out for a stubborn kid. Next, stick to your guns even though you are tempted not to. Finally reward all good behavior with little things. (good behavior reward is very important to break an unpleasant behavior)
2006-12-23 04:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take this seriously, employ therapy, professional help. I know a friend of my family whose son was like this. At the age of 18 he was shot 3 times by the police in Canada. Killed.
2006-12-23 04:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up a torture chamber!... No, don't. But really, is it "him" the problem or is it you? Be honest, Did you spoil him? No discipline? or do you think: Don't discipline or you'll hurt his selfesteem? You are the authority, I know it may be hars, especially if you are a softie, but it is the only way, you may not like it, but if you don't take disciplinary action now, you will have a rebelious kid at home and a future abuser.
God Bless.
2006-12-23 04:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tear his little a** up and let him no that he's not the parent but you.
Punish him take away his privileges.
Don't feed him until he behaves. Let him know that bad/rude boys don't get food or toys or any good stuff. And neither would he unless he behaves!!!
(I hope u have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year)
2006-12-23 04:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Dominique J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him tell him that you love him and that when he is mean he makes you want to cry and when his good tell have him that his mummy good little boy and give him a surprise, like a sticker or some think and let him help do things around the house that way he feels like is a big boy and it will also keep his mind occupied
2006-12-23 05:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son has to understand that you are his mother and that he is the child. He has no right to be mean to you. He also should not curse. Establish your position without being violent. But do not accept any abuse. You can punish him by ignoring him or limiting his playtime. It has to be clear who is the boss!
2006-12-23 05:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tina L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I"m 14 too and if I ever curse my mother, she will kill me, maybe the problem is that you're are too nice to him or to smooth to him, show him that you can be a tough mother once in a while, I know that beating your children is a bad thing but sometimes it's the only thing to do. ( my mother taught me a lot).
2006-12-23 04:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by moi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋