Did I do the right thing?What should I do?

Question

We have been together for nearly 5 years, unmarried, no kids, we're 24, and were virgins when we met.

He recently cheated on me in a one night stand and confessed all by himself three weeks later-there was no way I'd have known otherwise.I told him I would forgive and forget until I found out that he had her number and she slept over in his apartment twice (he said nothing happened either time tho).When I caught him lying about it I dumped him by text.When we met up 2 or 3 days after that I said we should take a break and see other people over Xmas.He slept with someone else this thursday also though, and he said it was awkward and boring,he says still loves me and can't wait to see me in the new year.

Any advice?

To be fair, when I suggested the break I did tell him to explore other people if he was curious about them.

Answer 1

move on....he is a cheater and will not ever be able to be trusted. Good luck

Answer 2

I'm sorry babe but this guy is totally messing you around. If he loved you even a little bit he would never have cheated in the first place and to sleep with someone else so soon after you split is just rude.
I think if you were to get back with him you would just end up more hurt because he wont change, once a cheater always a cheater.
You deserve someone so much better babe.
Good luck xxx

Answer 3

he sounds awful, I bet that he has been sleeping around behind your back for years. You did really well to dump him, but watch out, cos blokes want what they can't have and now you look really attractive to him because he likes a good chase, and thinks you are playing 'hard to get'. But you could waste more years on him, in which time you could have met a great guy, got married and had great kids. If you start an 'on off' relationship with this man, he will mess you around, waste your time and eventually dump you and your confidence will be so shattered that you won't ever trust anyone again. So be careful, change your phone number, ignore his temptations and get yourself a real man!

Answer 4

It sounds like you're brewing a New Year's resolution for a lot of heartache.

Make him prove it to you by being your friend. See other people (without sleeping with them) and show yourself there are lots of people out there that want to be with you without hurting you and make him show you by actions that he doesn't want to take you for granted. I wouldn't even discuss it with him. Just say, let's be friend's first and just see what happens. Friends don't lie and cheat on each other so he's not even being a friend to you at this point. You don't deserve what he's dishing out and for him to throw 5 years down the drain over a couple of one night stands is REALLY scary and sounds like a situation you need to run from in order to protect and respect yourself.

If its meant to be he'll wise up real quick and realize he's the one that needs to be working hard to win your trust back, otherwise, he'll just make you (do all the work) and you'll be hurt over and over again.

I really hope you can be strong in this, you'll thank yourself later for not giving in to his ways which sounds like he needs help. It really sucks he went and did that, but you can't change the past so all you can do is become smarter for your future. I wish you the best in this!

Answer 5

Forget him. Move on. He cheated before the break. On the break he felt like sleeping with someone else again. After cheating he still lied, You have all the proof you need to know he isn't worth trying to stay with. It will hurt and it may be hard but you have to get away from him.

Do not see him in the new year. Make a resolution to get over him. (And stick to it)

He says he still loves you, he proves this by cheating on you, telling lies, sleeping with someone else. Lucky you to have someone so "loving" you can be with. Seriously, you can do better than this and you deserve better than this.

Answer 6

I think the first thing you shouold do is take him down the vets and get him castrated! He obviously wants to have his cake and eat it, as it were, and I think your feelings are worth more than him getting his leg over.
Yes, I understand 5 years is a long time to be with someone, and maybe you think you can forgive him, but realistically you won't be able to, you'll always have that litlle niggling in the back of your head.

So, therefore, my friend, buy yourself a new dress, get your hair done, give him the shove and get yourself out there for some new kisses in the New Year!!

Merry Christmas to you!!

Answer 7

Think about it. He's done it before, he'll do it again. Once a cheater always a cheater! You're better then that!!! You rock! Well done for dumping him and the only advice I can give you if get into a better relationship, show it off in front of him while he's sleeping with random women cos he's a loner

Answer 8

if you want to have a happy Christmas and an even better new year dump him, he's a two timing rat, who has cheated more than once on you and wont hesitate to do it again when the opportunity presents itself. your young and there plenty of more guy's out there, who would treat you with the respect you deserve. probably the only reason he told you was because he felt guilty or thought you'd find out somehow. be positive and move on. Good luck.

Answer 9

tell him your worth more than that, once a cheat always a cheat and you will never trust him again, i was married for 17 years and after 2 years my ex cheated on me then after a while i took him back but could never trust him and i was right cause 16 years on he done it again so i went srtaight to the lawyers to file for divorce and got it in 8 months, it was hard but i could not stay and give him the chance to do it a 3rd time, hope you make the right decision, take care and remember there is someone out there that won`t cheat on you, merry xmas xx

Answer 10

Two options, you live with the fact that he has cheated (very hard to do) and the possibility that he'll do it again, or you dump him and move on. Personally if a man cheats on me, the trust is gone and I can't take him back. Depends on what type of person you are and if you are really capable of putting it in the past, completely trusting him again, and not throwing it back in his face everytime you have a row.

Answer 11

He wants his cake and eat it. He is either with you or he isnt. Take a break, I think that is what he is wanting. He is wanting to sew his wild oats, wants to have sex with other women, wants to experience other women. Of course he still love you, you are his first love, but thats no excuse for the way he is acting at the moment. I know its a bad time of the year, but if its good for the goose........ of you go, have a lovely xmas, get chatted up, experience what he is doing. You may find out that he isnt the man for you afer all.