2006-12-23 04:26:37 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well the bible says a lot of things.. so please...
We should be competent and intelligent enough to solve our issues without consulting a ~2000 year old book!
2006-12-23 04:43:00 · update #1
Parents need to earn respect from their children, right from the beginning. You do that through love and through setting examples. Actions speak louder than words. Children copy their parent's behavior.
2006-12-23 04:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Parenting is a learned skill.
Children learn bad behavior from bad parents.
Dogs learn behaviour from their master the same way.
Like with dogs, if you don't know what you're doing they will teach you. An example is people who don't know that allowing your dog to lead the way on the leash is telling them that they are top dog. No matter what the human thinks is going on the dog's pack instinct rules. He's in the alpha position. Once the dog has learned that he follows, then you can allow him to lead the walk at the master's discretion. A grown dog that has been taught well won't be confused about who's alpha.
Kids are much the same. If you inadvertently teach them that you only mean what you say once you start yelling you have taught them poorly and it's the parent's fault. Baby's learn hand signals before they learn to speak.
You can be ignorant of the facts and think kids should respect their parents by default but if the parent is inadvertently teaching them to disrespect the parent the child can't be expected to show respect by some sort of "pack instinct".
So, NO children shouldn't respect their parents by default. Parents have to learn to earn respect by knowing what they are doing. Any parent or dog owner that doesn't know how to do behaviour modification only have themselves to blame.
2006-12-23 09:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by HarryRightsguy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By default, huh? Hmmm. Interesting way of saying it. But what children should realize is that they are dependent on someone else to care for them for the first 18 years of their life. Everything they have is because someone else is providing for them. Not all parents are good, but not all parents are bad, either. If a parent would be a parent and love, care, and support their child, and also take the time to make sure their child is taught while young how to be respectful of their elders and not allowed to do things that people label as "cute" when it is not cute as a child nor as a teen (cussing, fighting, bullying,etc) parents would not spend so much time wondering why their child disrespects them during their teen and adult years.
2006-12-23 04:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that children should be taught to respect their elders. They should also know when it's ok not to respect people that don't respect themselves or don't return the respect. I.e. if the elder is a child molestor, murderer etc. But first and utmost, teach the child to respect themselves and they'll share the respect for others. Parents should have earned it (especially mom) when they've succeeded in raising a healthy child that has never been hospitalized for any reasons out of their control. I.e. if the child is in the hospital because of a dislocated shoulder because their arm was yanked too hard, or the child fell out of a window or burned himself pretty badly on a stove etc. It all depends on the situation. If their good parents the respect will be there. If the kid is a spoiled rotten brat, then teach him respect.
2006-12-23 04:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by born2bfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when children are younger, like 11 or so and under, respect is by default, because they haven't had the luxury of deciding anything for themselves except if they want a barbie doll or a cabbage patch kid. once they start to get older, they realize that their parent's don't know them as well as they used to. They also don't agree with many of the decisions their parents make for them, which relates back to the previous statement. Once they hit about 14 or 15, parents need to earn their respect. It's all about trusting your kid. If you don't trust them, they don't respect you.
2006-12-23 05:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childrens have to respect their parents even if the parents don't respect them back is what I think. it's just that lately I've been thinking that I only have 2 parents and they are not going to be around forever so I've been behaving, after all they gave me birth and I am very thankful for that. You should be too. I know that I sound old but I'm only 14.
2006-12-23 04:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by moi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Children should respect their parents just because. Unfortunately, there are lots of parents in this world, that don't deserve the respect of their children or anyone else. I have so much compassion for the kids who don't have reason to respect and look up to their parents.
2006-12-23 04:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
a little bit of both each of us came into this world via those rents and there is a bit of dues needing to be paid for that little trip but then as we get older earning respect becomes a two way street disrespecting anyone is not cool because you are setting up a cycle where it goes back and forth and escalates until everyone starts acting like some idiot gang banger with no sense of reason or moral responsibility so it really is a case of both inherited and worked at good question as it makes you think about it More than you would ordinarily
2006-12-23 04:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by doc 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Children must respect his parents by default. When this children will become parents he will be respected by his children. Thus the peace will establish in the society.
2006-12-23 04:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by akandaa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children should respect there parents because they were put over them for a reason.The Bible does state "children obay your parents in the Lord for this is good." The only reason a child should not respect their parents is because the parent is involved in activity that could be harmful to them.
God Bless!!!
2006-12-23 04:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents should demand it, as well as earn it. You respect your parents because they gave life to you, and theyre older than you. The level of the respect past that is earned.
My dad could be a major immature child (he was only 21 when i was born after all) when I was growing up, but you can bet you hiney if i ever so much as looked at him sideways, or coped and attitude with him my mom would spank me good and make me apologize. She told me to always honor and respect my father, regardless of what he did, he was my father.
I think all children should be demanded of the same thing.
2006-12-23 05:00:03 · answer #11 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋