If someone cheats on u that means that they don't love u right?

Question

Is there really such a thing as a drunken mistake?

He cheated one night stand we are now on a break until the new year and he slept with someone else two nights ago also.

He cheated one night stand we are now on a break until the new year and he slept with someone else two nights ago also.

To be fair I did suggest that he have a shop round and make sure that he really wanted to get back together in the new year.

Answer 1

Dunno and no!

Answer 2

Well, its a hard fact to take but it sounds like he doesn't love you if he has cheated on you.

You have to consider...what about all the other people in the world that have partners and get drunk but still manage NOT to cheat on their other half? How do they avoid the "need" to have a one night stand which they feel like doing when they get drunk?

...Its that indefinable and all-consuming emotion called love. People that love one another don't have the need to be with other people because they are either very content with the partner OR they choose to be disciplined and not act on their impulses(because they love the person so much and value the relationship).

So in reality, drunken mistakes don't occur if you truly love someone. I expect he may still really like/fancy you but I'm not convinced he loves you.

And that isn't because of anything you have done its just that he is not a decent bloke. There is no excuse for him cheating on you(effectively twice), if he wanted to be with other girls he should have split up with you first then slept with other girls. He hasn't treated you with the respect you deserve, for him to think he can actually sleep with other girls and then go back to normal with you is a pi*s take. I'd have strung his balls up as decorations for the christmas tree...hahha ! )

Well, best of luck with you future relationships, this is just a learning curve, it makes you stronger. I hope your next partner will treasure and honour you like every person(except the bit*hes and basta*ds) deserves.

Answer 3

There is such a thing as a drunken excuse...and it is NEVER a good one.

No is my answer. Someone who loves you would not want to even be in the position to do such a thing let alone actually do it.

Also someone who acts like that is clearly not mature and this begs the question whether someone that immature is capable of love in the first place.

Answer 4

He can say he loves you all he wants, but infedelity is not the way to show you. Being in love with someone means you have no desire to be with anyone else ever! It means that you are more then extatic to be with that person always & that they fulfill all your wants & desires, mentally,spiritually & physically. In my opinion if he honestly made a mistake & was truly drunk & didn't know what he was doing & was sick to his stomach that he cheated on you...then I would consider councelling. But doing it again, weather or not you are on a break, tells me that he doesn't feel the same way about you, that you do about him. I'm sorry that I am saying this to you but don't fool yourself. I know you are probably scared to be alone,especially if you have been with him for a long time, but you deserve someone who would never do anything to hurt you like that. I was in a relationship for 7 years and I broke up with him because something just didn't feel right! He never cheated on me, but I knew he didn't really respect me & that all his friends were always more important than me. And I was afraid that I would be alone & never find anyone to spend the rest of my life with. 6 months after we broke up I started dating this guy, who simply adored me. He chased after me from the minute he knew I broke up with my boyfriend...when I finally caved in & said yes I would go out with him, I instantly fell in love with him. He was everything I ever wanted...good looking, funny, sensative and if I ask him when he knew he had fallen in love with me, he answers "the minute I layed eyes on you". We've been together 5 years and just newly married 6 months ago & trying to have a baby. I never would have found him if I didn't follow my gut instinct. You know what's right for you...you just have to have the courage to do it.

With all my support!

Answer 5

It does not mean they don't love you. It means they made a bad, wrong decision.

But it's so hard to trust after that. I do beleive there is such a thing as a drunken mistake but what lead up to that person being alone at a party, alone with a woman, etc?

Answer 6

So now that u guys are on a break it probably means to him a good thing since he cheated well not exactly since u guys are on a break he slept with anotehr girl he probably doesnt understand that even though u guys are on a break that means ur taking time off to think things over like do u really love eachother are u guys meant to be with eachother? instead hes out sleeping around he doesnt deserve u and probabbly doesnt return ur feelings anymore. so why dont u explain that its officially over nd see how he reacts. well good luk and happy holidays

Answer 7

I don't think cheating negates love. It certainly doesn't show how much they love you either though, does it? :) I think it shows a weakness of character, poor judgment, emotional dysfunction, neediness, and frankly, disrespect for you. Sex does not equal love. We are human and we do make mistakes, or rather, poor choices. The question is: do you still love the person who cheated on you? Can you still love the person who cheated on you? Will he/she do it again and how would that make you feel?

Often people who cheat are caught in that pattern of behavior, whether they can admit it or not, and are apt to repeat the offense (cheat again!). For some people there is an emotional need that is fulfilled in just flirting with others; this is called "emotional cheating" nowadays.

It's also possible that the person who cheated on you may not love you and that is their way of acting out to try and "escape" the relationship by getting you so angry or hurt that you dump them. Some people who don't know how to end relationships in a healthy, kind way engage in this kind of self-destructive (relationship-destructive) way to force their partner to do the breaking up for them.

Peace and blessings to you, and may you find forgiveness and comfort in your painful situation.

Answer 8

if he really loved you he would be spending this 'break time' trying to make up for his drunken mistake! not jumping in to bed with the next girl to accidently fall on his dick. Get rid, get someone who has more respect for you. He is obviously not thinking about you so why are you wasting your time trying to figure him out? he has moved on already, if he can do that so quick he does not love you. Forget this jerk.

Answer 9

Not so much a thing of love as it is about respect and being faithful. People can do things while drunk, but they are not too drunk that they dont know what they are doing. Do you understand me?

And you need to learn this...if they do it once and get away with it with a lame excuse, they will definitely do it again. It is just a matter of when.

Answer 10

this is a very difficult one. I don't believe it means they don't love you anymore but I would certainly have to question their respect for you. no-one can judge another person for their actions. If you feel you can get past this and give him another try then you do it. I know I couldn't, I would probably bring it up each time we had an arguement and that would eventually kill the relationship. You have to know within yourself whether you could forgive or not, the decision is yours. Good luck!!

Answer 11

U need to leave this dude alone. He doesnt love u because if he did, he wouldnt be cheating on u. U can find someone who treats u better than he does. U know u dont deserve it and no one deserves to be cheated on and hurt