Long story short, this girl I'm enticed with and have known for the last year has not returned my last two phone calls and didn't show up at a date we had planned. Normally I would write the person off and forget about it, but this girl is hard to let go, basically I put this girl above all others right now. The question is should I just cut her off and wait for her to contact me, or should I keep trying, and if I do decide to cut her off how should I react if she does contact me. Should I lay on a little guilt for blowing me off, should I forgive an forget and act like it didn't bother me. No one can give me the answer to this question without knowing all the factors, but I'm sure someone out there has experienced a similar predicament and I would appreciate some advice. I've traveled Europe with this girl, we've stayed up all night together talking and drinking wine, I've told her things about myself that I wouldn't tell best friends, simply put I am committed and not wanting to admi
2006-12-23 04:01:07 · 12 answers · asked by noevilmonkeys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont be such a chump ... your "pursuing" her, thats completly wrong. You should be the prize not her ...
Heres a pua (google it) idea, cat-string theroy ...
Have you ever seen a cat when a thread was being dangled just over its head? The cat goes crazy, running all over the room doing black flips to try to get that string - however, if you just drop the string - the cat just looks at it and walks away ...
You have to be the dancing string ...
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2006-12-23 04:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Plethora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question was hard to read, im sorry for the situation you were put into. I've had something sort of like this, and its hard to just put someone off you had such strong feelings for. I would honestly say you should try to contact her, and honestly say to her your feelings about her not contacting you back or ditching you on your date. You dont have to be all emotional but you could maybe hint that you were pretty upset. If you leave this on her answering machine and she doesnt call you back, then you know for sure that girl does not want to be contacted by you, and does not like you. She could also be playing a "Chasing game" where she just wants you to contact her, and have you chase her. Dont let yourself get hurt and good luck!
2006-12-23 12:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it does sound like she has lost some interest. Because if her interest level is at it's highest, she will do everything to talk/hang out with you.
NOW, this doesn't mean she doesn't like you. She could truly be busy. I wouldn't give up on her just yet. Every relationship doesn't fall into perfect pieces. They will have their downsides and upsides. Fighting for her will defintely be worth it in the long run.
My rule is if someone still talks with you, they obviously have some sort of interest. If you dont hear from her in 1 week, move on brother. Just remember life is all about experiences.
2006-12-23 12:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by ronniebennington202 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know her too well to just not call anymore. Keep calling and ask if she is OK. Maybe she had an emergency or something really bad happened to her.
If she wants to get rid of you she will give you other signs. She would say she is busy and not talk very long on the phone and be reluctant to set up further meetings/dates.
2006-12-23 12:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by CAM1122 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for her to contact you. If she doesn't then you know that she never liked you in the first place and you should move on. If she Does contact you then ask her why she didn't return your phone calls, and if she really wants to pursue the relationship. If she says yes then continue it, if she says no than ask her why. Then you can decide if you want to change for her or if it isn't worth it. Good Luck!!
2006-12-23 12:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by !~!GoTHPuNkChICk!~! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is all focused on you -- how you feel, what you're doing, what you should do, how you should react. What about her? Have you talked to her about how she feels? Have you asked her why she didn't show up -- she may have a very good reason. If you really care about her, you'll take her feelings into account as well. Start focusing on HER instead of your OBSESSION with her.
2006-12-23 12:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the others you need to let her know somehow that you feel for her.... at least then you will know whats next ya know....
I definately think that maybe you should mention something about her blowing it off, but be cool the guilt trip may backfire....
If you really like her some pursuit may be necessary...
she also may confused herself so talking to her may help you both figure it out.....
2006-12-23 12:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by crystal j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her one more time and tell her you were worried because she didn't show up, etc. You'll know by her answer wether she's sincere & is or is not interested. If she's not, then move on.
2006-12-23 12:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the world needsw more men like u and me and yeah man cut her off dont be a cat you have to be the mouse
2006-12-23 12:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been making all the wrong moves, and now she has totally lost interest in you. Move on.
2006-12-23 12:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋