Does age difference become hinderence... to a succefu happy marriage..?!?

Question

does age difference reli matter..when it comes to a story of succceful..happy marriage?! as in..is..17yrs or more..of age difference..reli end-up...spliting after a while?????

Answer 1

why should age difference be a problem to love???

Answer 2

What is more important than the age difference is the two people involved in the marriage/relationship and how they feel about each other and how they are willing to work on their marriage/relationship. I have seen couples with significant age differences who are the happiest of couples and who stay married! Most of the age differenced couples I've seen/known actually have better marriages than the others where there is little age difference.

I think it would also depend on how each partner felt about the age difference and what ages you really are. For example, a 77 year old and a 60 year old may seem less drastic than a 37 year old and a 20 year old. I am in a relationship right now with someone nearly 15 years my senior and he is worried about the age difference while I am quite content with it.

There are no guarantees in marriage whether you're the same age or not! Marriage is a commitment that takes a lot of work and patience and love and understanding.

Peace and blessings.

Answer 3

U didn't state your age or if you younger one or the older one!
in the VAST majority of the time i would have to say yes. TOOOO many factors to figure in to this discussion... but love is love (most don't konw what love is why we have a divorce rate over 50% in the US right now)

My whole family is married with the wives being older (i am 1 yr younger than wife) brother is 16yr younger and dad is in the middle with 9yrs ..... all of us have been married more than 5yrs also......

i would say that 10yrs is about 50/50 probably (out of the original 50% makes about a 25% chance of "forever")... take for instance 17 vs 27 think bout it...they though college, and/OR sucessful or they are at a dead end probably headed for trouble.... at 17 you have your whole life in front of you..... differant cloths, music, potental, out look on life changes alot in those yrs. Even if you were done with HS you probably don't know what college is like or have a clue one what you want to do with your next 30 yrs. remember alot of people are doing a carrer change in there 30's now also and looking for a double retirement. do you want to help with the 2nd change in life (or just be there till they get ready for someone else).
flip side 43 vs 53 not so big a differance probably only basic lifestyles that you will learn to mutuall appricate.

17 yrs I would have to say is bit much to probably make it work in the long run. or look at it like 50/67 50 is prime for looking at retiring and will they be able to make it by 62-65 kids in college grandkids want to go visit... 67 is 3-7yrs after retirement wanting to slow down "take it ez"

Consider

kids could easily be same age as the younger spouse. is the younger one looking for a mother/father figure? are they willing to accept that role? how about parents from both sides. Long term is the younger one willing to accept the responsiblities of taking care of older one. (yes and doing it 2 way differant things) Your circle of friends will be totally differant and probalby unable or unwilling to accept the others friends/viewpoints.

then again your mind is already made up i am sure you just looking for support to the side you have choosen. I hope this helps in your LONG TERM outlook
wow this is longer than i planed

Answer 4

you dohave considerations to manage...
for example he is retiringthis year and i have
maybe 20 more years to work...so we can't
retire together like the storybook.
it's not impossible but people have different
interests at different ages. and people change.
for example you don't see many 70-yr-olds skateboarding.
there is a natural progression of interest and activity through life.
and you may be more out-of=synch than most.
there are issue you ahve to manage.
but it is workable.
i most often hear younger wives saying
"he can't keep up with me"
because they want to be more active, go out more, do more active things that the older spouse doesn't want to do.
honestly older people got to fewer parties etc.
sex changes, too. older men have more difficulty
with they physical parts of sex; they don't have erections
as easily, they have less physical prowess, etc.
they also tend to want sex less often.
because of hormonal changes throughlife.
you can have a happy marriage but you should consider these things. sometimes a 60-yr-old guy just doesn't want to chase around a two year old.

experience is how i know this.

Answer 5

Aristotle said the ideal marrying age for a man and a woman is, for the woman 20 and the man 37.

Because guys are still sexual untill age 70 and woman untill their 50, so never in the relationship will one want s*x and the other not ... which creates stress and problems and all that.

Well theirs a master philosophers opinion on the subject =)

Answer 6

Depends on the personalities of the two getting married. Some people are old by have a very young soul and some people are young but very mature. Age is just a number and if you're meant to be it will work. It might be difficult for some people and it might be really easy for some others. only you can tell..

Answer 7

I think age does matter because Ive been with a older man before and it was not good at all.I know some people might say just because the relationship I was in with a older man did not work it does not mean their relationship will not work.I myself found it hard to relate to him being he was 15 years older then me and I was just barely 20.It was too difficult and at times he was very abusive to me.verbally and emotionally.When we would go out people would stare and I felt very uncomfortable because of this.Age may not matter to some but it sure as heck matters to me.too much of a big age difference leads to disaster in my opinion.But whooever wants to go with somebody with a extreme age difference more power to you.To each their own.

Answer 8

The chances of success is not in the age, but in how well you 2 get along.
Question: Is there a guaranteed success when two people with 2 or 3 years of difference get married? It is not about age, but about principles, maturity, personality and, above all, Love.God Bless you in your adventure... Life itself is an adventure.

Answer 9

Age is the last thing you should worry about. If you love and trust him, then that is all that really matters. Age is just a number.

Answer 10

Chronological age is not nearly as important as 'emotional age' or maturity. People need to be, psychologically, at the same point in their lives to form a perfect union. Age is not a good measure of maturity, goals, ideas, responsibility, or the future.

Answer 11

no.. but theres a change in ur roles towards each other.. the older one being more experienced shud be undrstanding n have lots of patience while the younger one shud be willing to listen n take advice..