Its hard to even say it, but i am completley falling for mybestfriend. His name is Aaron. He says things that make me think he likes me too. He is so nice, but the problem with me telling him is I have already told him once before, things took forever for us to get back to where we are. I dont want to loose my bestfriend, but I really think i do like him. We are really touchy feely with eachother , but i just dont know!
The last "obsticle" is the fact that my friend Ashley really really likes him, and my ex bestfriend may like him too. Im just so confused on how to handel this.
If I tell him, that could be the end of my friendship with him, and my two friends. If I dont tell him, that could make me just nuts!
help!
thank you very much! =]]
oh and i could be miss reading his signals, he flirts with lots of girls.
2006-12-23 03:51:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I have a friend who likes her best friend who is a guy and she is shy to tell him but I think she should and you should to and here is why: If you guys are BFF then you guys probably talk about alot of stuff I would think but try and have one of your closest friends that is a girl try and talk to him but don't make it obvious make it to wear it seems like you have no idea that she is talking to him then later when he is not around have her tell you what he said and if he does like you ask your friend to sugjust to him to ask you out and go from there. Now if your other friends like him too then that is all right but if they get mad at you for going out with him or anything like that then they are not your real friends!!! I hope I helped you in anyway that could, good luck!!!
2006-12-23 04:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by panda16_4life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to assess if its worth the risk.
obviously it wasn't the last time you tried with him, and a second time will not be so easy(if possible) to repair...
also how long ago was this? are you different towards each other now?
I think it doesn't seem worth it. Your personal anguish may not seem too bad when compared to losing another friend, making a more stressful situation with your ex-best friend and the fact that it might now work out.... if he is the flirtatious type then you are just interpreting it into how you;d prefer.
I think that you are so comfortable with this person that you want it to be more because you've already found an easy great match... I would say if anything wait and time will tell...if anything you will realize what type of bond you have with this person...
The personal anguish will suck but so will losing more friends and possible him if you go through with it....
If your still unsure talk to him but don't be too straight forward, just feel him out talk about your friendship and pay attention to his responses....
2006-12-23 11:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by crystal j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
C'mon Yummy. You're just another one of his girl-best-friends. As long as he flirts with everyone, he ain't even thinking serious. In fact, if you are still in school, you should be more focussed on other things. My suggestion is that you continue to:
1. Groom immaculately
2. Dress nicely
3. Study harder than ever
4. Spend an hour a day in the library
5. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents and your teachers
7. Get involved in a worthy school function
8. Volunteer a few hours a week for a worthy cause
9. Help someone every day
10. Go to Church
Good Luck
2006-12-23 11:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "Hey you remember that time that I told you I liked you and things got all weird between us? I am really sorry that happened. I want us always to be totally honest with each other on how we feel about each other whether we're afraid of things getting weird or not, okay?" Then see how he reacts. He may at that point come out and tell you how he feels if he really does like you. You could even tell him at that point that you still have feelings for him but you don't want it to effect your friendship and he may then admit his feelings for you. The point is if you two are as good friends as you say you are then you should be completely honest. Don't be afraid to take a risk. As for your friends liking him, if you only dated guys that no other girls liked then you would never have any fun so go for it!
2006-12-23 12:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by JNR3078 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in that situation more or less..and it sucks. My two best friends started dating and I hated it..then they broke up and he started to date another girl. After they broke up we both were in the place where we were both ready to date each other. It was great but it didnt last long. I guess he wasnt really ready to date to me...and now hasnt barely talked to me since we broke up. With time and growth it can be possible for us to get back together.
I would say give it time..you dont want to scare him off, and you would be surprised how nutty you wont be if you wait. I think when best friends date it can be very great....but you can ruin the friendship it you dont do it at the right time.
2006-12-23 12:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Laurel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look just tell ur other 2 friends, and if they get mad at u then they weren't ur real friends, This had happened to me once, just take it smooth, relax, tell him how u really feel this time, not just the line"I like u", tell him more than that, u have to have confidence, but please don't get out of hand! life to short!!! u may say I'll do it tomorrow, there may not be tomorrow, so do it when u get the chance, or when u c him.......this is life, is not easy.....but sometimes u gotta do what u gotta do, right? so good luck on that one, and Happy Holidays.....
2006-12-23 12:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Shay. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since uve already told him n he hasnt given u a favourable ans means he doesnt think abt u that way.. u cant stop ur feelings for him.. so just go along.. tellling him again doesnt make any sense.. abt ur frnd loving him.. it makes no diffrnce unless aaron likes her back.. ur in a harmless situation.. dont worry so much.. it may just be an infatuation.. u'll get over it
2006-12-23 11:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. usually I would say "go for it" But since it did ruin your relationship before and your not quite sure. I wouldnt tell him. If he cant handle that kind of pressure of you liking him, it probably wouldnt be good to tell him. If he likes you, wait for him to tell you. If not, just move on and find another guy to like. There are soooo many. Trust me.
2006-12-23 11:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by missy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY OPIOION IS THAT I WOULD JUST LEAVE THINGS AS THEY R IF HE WANTS IT 2 BE MORE THENGOOD BUT DONT PUSH THE SUBJECT AND THIS RELATES 2 MY FRIEND DYLAN B/C I THOUGHT I LIKED HIM AND HES ASKED ME OUT BUT I SAID NO B/C I KNOW HOW HE IS AND THAT HE GOES THROUGH GURLS LIKE I CHANGE CLOTHES AND HE IS LIKE A BROTHER 2 ME AND WE ACT AS THOUGH WE R A COUPLE BUT WE'RE NOT AND I LIKE IT LIKE THAT HES SOMEOME THAT I CAN RELIGH ON WITHOUT HIM TELLING I MEEN MY DEEPEST DARKEST SECRET AND I DONT THINK I COULD EVEN TELL MY BOY FRIEND SO TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION ON HIS BEHALF WELL HOPE U MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION LUVZ ALWAYS CHRISTIANA A.K.A TWIXX
2006-12-23 13:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by christiana p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since your friends like him, and you too, i think you should just be friends. w/benefits? hmm. well if he flirts with a lot of girls, then that means that he's just having a lot of mixed feelings. he may like you, but he will like others too. keep that in mind, i've been in your steps before, trust me, just leave it alone. or else you'll learn the consquences.
2006-12-23 11:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋