How is it possible that good kids and good parents don't get along?

Question

I know several cases like that. Parents and kids are great people but yet kids have strong resentment and there seems to be no solution.

Answer 1

I believe, that a lot of the problem stems from a mis-understanding on both parts. Parents are parents and nothing more! Children tend to have this idea that Parents are above people and that they are not supposed to have the same problems and feelings as their children. The same applies to Children! Parents tend to forget that children are people too! Not just their children. They have feelings and thoughts of their own and those feelings and thoughts may not match the Parents. It is something that has been going on since the beginning of time!
Alas, Parents continue to protect their children, no matter what age they may be. There is no love, like a parents love for a child, or the child's love for a parent.
Now, that is not to say that a parent or even a child has to like each other. There is no law that says you, as a child have to like your parents, or a parent has to like their child. But, the love is there no matter what! Parents and children alike need to be taught that we are all human and as such have individual personalities that may clash.
But, I can tell you from person experience that when it comes down to it. A child and a parent will come together when the times demand it of them. Time, and understanding, are the only two aspects of exsistance that will change anything. And, it takes time to understand!

Good Luck
Blessed Be

Answer 2

I think it's something everyone experiences from one or both sides of. I was a terribly rebellious teen, but only when it came to my parents. They are good people, who raised me well. I was a good kid and really didn't do "bad" things. But there came a time where I needed to find out who I was in the world, apart from my parents and family... and I resented any attempt my parents made to "help" (in whatever way they seemed to think that they were).

I really just think that it's a part of growing up and personal/individual growth. A parent can only do the best they can and then pray and hope that the kid has enough sense to retain some of that as they go out on their own.

(p.s. my folks are now my closest and best friends... after a 10 year feud.)

Answer 3

The same way bad kids and bad parents don't along, because everyone has their own opinion of how they think things should be and in the end there is nothing but conflicts.

Answer 4

time will help.
values change.
kids have different values
because their life and experience is different.
they cannot understand each other.
until the kid has more chance to take
significant responsibilitiesin life.
it's ok, even normal, for the kids to resent
(bite the hand that feeds because it's close)
but they will get over it.
it's temporary. it's a stage. this too shall pass.

Answer 5

You are right. It is nature's little whammy parents and kids will always clash when the time comes. I think it is natures way of separating them, otherwise kids would stay in the nest and not go out into the world and do the things they need to do.

If they were raised right, forgiveness will always come.

Answer 6

Definately, I'm a straight-A student, on student council, I have an after school job and I'm a member of our school concert band, my parents are good people too but we just don't get along, usually I just ignore them and they ignore me.

Answer 7

It seems to be the norm for the "me" generation.

Answer 8

Two positives + + often repel