I love my girl friend. I am totally committed to her . No chance of cheating on her, BUT I've lost my freedom to do what I like without having a to tell her I am going some where. Simple things like If I want to go to the driving range for an hour.or get the car washed. I feel acountable to her . Instead of just going. I feel controlled.She would never object, but it is the idea of it that I feel I cannot come and go as I please. What do you people think?
2006-12-23 03:29:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not being controlled, it's common courtesy....it's all in how you look at it.....have the discussion with her...it probably is self imposed and she may not feel like you have to tell her everything you do every minute....good luck
2006-12-23 03:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably started the mood to this relationship by telling her everytme you went somewhere and she probably did not do the controlling, you just feel that's the way relationships should be, that's why a lot of people say "they need space". I hate that kind of relationship it's like giving someone else total authorityl of your life, I look for person that feels the same and trusts me. Good luck, I don't know how your going to get yourself out but this is how you got yourself in so maybe you can back track.
2006-12-23 03:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why I've chosen singlehood — you don't have to get bogged down in any of that crap. There's freedom to be had out here. If you're worried, just try doing your own thing for a while. If you still feel stifled, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship at all.
2006-12-23 06:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a relationship implies accountability. But the way you have phrased your dilemma leads me to infer that she is more of a gate keeper than a girlFRIEND. In a relationship if one is continually checking up or accusing the other of impropriety it is usually a case of having something to hide. What does she do when she is away from you? Speaking from experience, it will not get any better.
2006-12-23 03:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by brian z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you need to try it out, go somewhere do something that you want... if you're in a relationship ya really can't just run off because that worries some people...but you shouldn't feel restrained all the time either...
but by actually testing it, it will be the only way you will know her reaction... if you do you need to discuss it with her.
because if you can't be yourself and have time to yourself, you and your relationship will falter
2006-12-23 03:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by crystal j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be straight with her and just tell her that you are looking for a companion and not a parent.. you had to answer to your parents, you should not have to answer to your girl friend. if she got that much time on her hands to try and control you then you needs a hobby or something... Call her girl friends and tell them to get her out the house... seems like she is bored to... or better yet spend some time with her, that may be her way of lashing out at you, tell you she need some time too.
2006-12-23 03:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. I am a girl, and I know that if my boyfriend told me something like that I would tell him that I wouldn't care if he was going to go to see his ex, I just want him to be happy. So tell her the truth about how you feel, it could strengthen your relationship.
2006-12-23 03:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has not been insisting you report your whereabouts to her I think you have put this on yourself, pecially if you don't live together. If you lived together it would be nice to let her know you won't be home until late because you have some errands after work, etc.
2006-12-23 03:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by twest_dgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she emotionally unstable? Talk to her frankly about your commitment towards her and she will be stable.
2006-12-23 03:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋