Ken and I like each other. Im in love with him for 3 years. I want to marry him, he is the one. He says he has feelings for me. He really liked me in the past and still does. I always have to call him now. He says he misses me but never calls. When we do talk, he ends the conversation first and says we'll talk tomorrow, but never calls the next day. He always makes plans, asks about my plans for Xmas and New Years, says that he wants to meet up, but never does. I don't want to have a teen-fling-relationship with him at this age because I dont want it to ruin our chances for the future if we break up. I want to save him for the future, marry him, and have a life with him. He is my everything. The problem now is that we have a communication problem. You see, he doesnt really know me well. We know each other for a long-long time, yet we dont know much about each other. Im scared to open up because he broke my heart last year, even though he deeply apologized.
How can I make us close?
2006-12-23 03:14:40 · 11 answers · asked by babycake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make "us close"...he is not interested in a closer relationship or he would not treat you this way. If he is your "everything" you need more "anything". You say you don't know much about each other, and you want to marry him? First find a best friend, then date, then think about marriage, marriage is supposed to last a lifetime. Marriage is something decided upon together. You don't choose someone to marry and then try to fall in love.
2006-12-23 03:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is just goofing arround with you.Please do not be sad or mad at me ok.It seem's that you are really in love with him but i think he's not,so i would tell you that try to ignore him but don't let him go show if that you are also not so attracted towards him and make him think that u r ignoring him so he will star to think about you and when he will realize that he is gonna miss a got opportunity he will come back to you.Let him chase you you don't chase him and if you do i am sure that you will lose him.I think i am quite clear and best of luck with your relationship hope your dreams will come true BYE
2006-12-23 03:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by rahul baid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet next time, do take his hand and ask why. Talking is the best way. He may be having a bad time or may have problems. That's why he is so polite to you when you are talking over the phone.
Just talk with him. And have things resolved.
Wish you a romantic x'mas and a year of wedding ahead!
2006-12-23 03:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu can't force him to be something he is not. I"d suggest you start by telling him you are going to date other people then do it.
If it's really meant to be with this guy, he'll come around. Let him chase you for a change instead of you chasing him.
Enjoy life, don't let your feelings for this guy get in your way. Meet some other guys, have fun, a few laughs. If he really loves you he'll come to you.
2006-12-23 03:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by markawfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem right now! anyway start making small talk if you see him its much more easy to talk to him straight than on the phone try to keep up the conversation and by small talk you will get 2 know each other better good luck gal!
2006-12-23 03:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by green c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait and until it's completely oobvious that he loves you. That's my best advice and i'm not going to ramble on about what you should say, because if you wanna marry this dude, you are gonna have to learn to communicate well. Set up a date and if he doesn't make it, then i don't think he really wants to talk to you.
2006-12-23 03:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by ♥~gracie girl~♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take one step at a time.
don;t rush into the whole love relationship yet.
just spend time with eachother as friends adn talk and maybe flirt.
ya know?things like this take time.
2006-12-23 03:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me,he is playin you girl!!You need to set things straight with him right now!Let him know how you really feel!If he truly loves you,he will open up to you!
2006-12-23 03:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by baby_gail68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you tell him that u love him ,and want to marry him? if he say something like no, we are still young...., something like that, which mean he doesn't like you as much as the first three years...
Sorry, if this doesn't help....
2006-12-23 03:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by deer8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put ur feet down, tell him yall both need 2 talk bout ur communication problem dat all
2006-12-23 03:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by personaltiyqueen92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋