Okay my friend has this boyfriend that I KNOW isn't right for her! He hangs out with the wrong crowd at school if you know what I mean, and I'm afraid that if she let's this relationship go on for too long, something more might escalade... I already tried mentioning it to her, but she got all mad. I'm afraid that if I mention that again it would ruin our friendship!!! how do I help with this without hurting the my best friend
2006-12-23 03:05:52 · 25 answers · asked by annabanana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can only wait for her to come to her senses. Not worth losing your friendship over.
2006-12-23 03:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by trixi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do but just hold your tongue and be there for her should she get hurt. It's her life and should you try to interfere (as you've already discovered) you could end up losing her friendship.
It is going to be hard to sit and watch but that's all you can do. Just limit the time you're around him and make sure you spend a lot of alone time with her. Don't be offhand when she mentions him otherwise you could wreck things between you. She already knows how you feel so just be there for her as a friend should be - no matter what her choices are or if they vary from yours.
2006-12-23 03:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by JACQUI S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters you preety much have already answered your own question. When you tell your friend how you feel about this guy it is going to make her think that you are jealous because she has someone finally that she really likes. You have to let time take its course and just let her find out what kind of person he is. It is not for you to judge your best friends men she has to do that for her self. And just because he hangs out with the wrong crowd doesn't mean that you have to hate him, he might not be like the people who he hangs out with.
2006-12-23 03:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by EMTGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bestfriend is going out with a total waste of space too, he messes her about all of the time, its always her putting the effort in. It sucks, you have my sympathy. Unfortuantly there is nothing you can do, she now knows your feelings about him. All you can do is be there and be supportive and how that she comes to the right conclusion herself. She doesn't sound like she wants to know your issues with him so if you keep pushing then you will only push her away. You've said your piece, now you just need to be there for her, watch her back etc and hope for the best. Good luck!
2006-12-23 03:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know what, if dats ur girl, who cares if she gets mad. Keep it real wit her. And if she's ur true friend, yea she might get mad, but she'll get over it. A guy should never come between true friends. And before, ya start talkn bout it. Let her know: Be like " Hey I don't care if ya get mad at me but I really dnt give a f_ck, I'm ur girl and am gonna tell ya lilke it is" And let her know every oppurtunity get it. Eventually, she'll come to her senses. She just needs an eye opener. Believe me I know!!!! Good luck girl. And Happy Holidays!!!!
2006-12-23 03:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by Traviesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to make her own mistakes. Everybody has a relationship in their lives who isnt right. The important thing is to learn from it. Dont ruin your friendship over this. If he is not right for her, she will realise it. Plus if you are in school, its probably only a short term relationship, probably not the love of her life
2006-12-23 03:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her business and not yours, sorry. If he is the man she chose, so be it. Though it may be wrong in everybody's eyes, let her discover it herself. You can't tell her he's not right for her or anything, because all these are her choice. Let her learn and let her grow. Be a friend for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on in the future. That's what friends are for. Good luck.
2006-12-23 03:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you can't help her. Love is blind is more than just a saying it's the honest to god truth.
If her relationship involves something illegal or something you know her parents would definitely not approve of, then you gotta let her know she's doing wrong. you may lose a friend, but if she's that way she's maybe not good friend material anyway.
2006-12-23 03:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by markawfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its out of your business my dear.you dont have to dictate who's good and not good for your friend.the only thing you can help her is to be there whenever she needed you,even she ignore you or forget you somehow always be there when she's down and so low.then that for a long time she will realize even she's been bad or good you were there through thick and thin and never leave her.that may the time she will take your advices because you let her prove that your a good friend
2006-12-23 03:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have tried your best.
You have told her how you felt about him and possibly told her your reasons?
If she persists in her decision, there's nothing more you can do.
Just be there for her when, not if, she'll need you.
Most importantly, don't feel you have to do things you wouldn't normally do, just to show her that you care about her.
She does know, even if her vision is clouded just now.
Take care.
2006-12-23 03:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your the judge jury executionor the friend and the the person in this situation. Look at what u wrote about someone perhaps like me. escalate not lade ends with ( the my ) best friend that is you . hahahahs call me what is so bad with you and I we cant talk I cant think of anything hoollla Merrry Christmas Boooooooooooo
2006-12-23 03:14:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋