Man 1.. We ment last december. We were together for anout 7 months. Durring these 7 months we moved way to fast. We moved in together and bought a house. House was in his name not both. I have 3 kids and so does he. So we needed a big house. The house he decided to but was expensive. He wasnt being felalistic. This caused us to have financial issues. On top of that he is very emotional and clingy. I am not. I like to have my space. Well in August Me and my kids moved into our own place. I ended the relationship. We didnt talk at all for months. About a week after I split with him i ment another man. This is man 2. We were together for about 4 months. I was so in love with him. He was more like me and required space like me so that was never a problem. We never moved in togther we just dated. Them a month ago he decided he wasnted try and fix his relationship with the mom of his youngest kid. So he split things off with me. He realized he wants me. Now they both want to be with me.
2006-12-23 02:40:03 · 13 answers · asked by Randa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My kids are not torn in the middle of this. There dad is very close to them. They arent looking for a father figure or anything.
2006-12-23 02:52:38 · update #1
go with the one who you feel more of a connection with.things will work out if they are ment to be.
2006-12-23 02:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by vj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have a dilemma. The second man you like more than the first and you have some things in common. It seems this man gives you space whereas the first man doesn't. The first man is a clingy type and I don't like women that are clingy either. I think this could be a situation with a problem at both ends. To say one is better than the other overall would not be exactly true but each does hve his qualities. But having to be responsible for 6 children is a lot to take on for anyone. The second guy though split with you and wanted to repair his relationship with another woman which would bother me now. I don't know if I would choose either one but one thing is for sure. It would depend on my feelings for each and whether I really loved one or the other or thought I loved one or the other only to realize later I didn't really love either one. This might be something you want to think about. The one thing you should not do is make a mistake that you will regret one day. Think of your children and what is best for them. Put them first and then make a decision to either go with one or forget them both or give it time to see if one changes enough for you to really know if you love him or not. Don't be in a rush to do anything right now. Be patient and wait a while to see what happens and think about what happens and how you will respond in the light of the welfare of your children. After all, they are your first responsibility.
2006-12-23 10:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give you the same advice that you get when you are driving your car and reach a railroad crossing" STOP , LOOK AND LISTEN". You have to sort out if what you feel when you meet a new man in your life is physical need or an emotional one. also you have to be careful that you do not move too quickly , you have kids and they did not ask to be brought into this world and usually they end up paying the consequences of our mistakes.If it is physical thing , then find a steady boyfriend , but keep him apart from your regular life with you kids until you are sure that this is the right guy. Be careful , wish you the best.
Dan.
2006-12-23 10:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by danshalom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find you a new guy....That's my advice but...
If you want the best choice out of the two...I would go with the guy who wants something in life which is man # 1. He was willing to risk everything(his relationship w/his 3 kids, be a father figure to your 3, go into finanial debt, and make it with you)...That's a real man...
2006-12-23 10:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty, you need to take care of those 3 kids before you get into relationships like these. you move in with these guys, then move out...it can't be comfortable for those kids. i'm not saying that you are a bad mom, you just need to think of the kids' feelings and needs. take some time out for yourself, and hang with your children.
2006-12-23 10:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man 2
2006-12-23 10:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by josie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound discontent with yourown life. You had better take a break from dating and relationships and grow up a bit before walking into another mans life. My dear, you are the one who is unsettled. Read between the lines.
2006-12-23 10:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take a break off of dating until things cool down. If you dont' want to upset either of them. If there is one guy that you can't stop thinking about and you're positive you love him not the other guy go for it again. Good luck and Merry early Christmas
2006-12-23 10:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so may men, so little time...Hon, you need to think of your kids and what is best for them. It isn't fair that they be shuffled from one male figure to another in an attempt to make mom happy. What happens to the kids when they get used to someone and then they aren't around anymore--do they feel abandoned? Just wondering.
2006-12-23 10:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on your kids, career, yourself, and leave the relationships alone for a while. You are a whole, complete, wonderful person without the romantic drama going on in your life. It's great to have two men wanting you, but you don't need it to be complete.
2006-12-23 10:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The emotional one is better ie man 1. He will take care of you and your kids. emotional men make better fathers.
2006-12-23 10:45:37 · answer #11 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋