After 2 mounths of going back and forth w my ex we keep on talking to each other. I still love her. She says she doent want to think about us like that anymore n doesnt want to try and work things out. Last night i called her. We kept talking till i sliped i was planig on proposing to her in june she was shocked "Wow" and "oh my god" was all she could say. I kept talking n well it lead me to cry and then she started 2 cry. Why would she cry she is the one that dumped me and i am the one pursuing this. All i want from her to think about all of this. The relationship lasted 4 yrs n we both always talked about kids n marrige. The break up came from nowhere only that she felt no romantic connection. I always gave her 100% i gave up parts of my life to be with her. I always told her how i felt and now this. Niether of us can stop calling one another. my only question is why would she cry over this, if this is what she wanted? I sent her a email telling, i will leave her be as best as i can.
2006-12-23 02:33:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
last night my best friend talked to her she said the last thing she want to hear about was us and marriege. She thought she was ready but started to get scared and she honeslty doesnt know what she wants. Saying i am an intance person. my friend defeanded me as the best man she'll ever find so how is this going to turn out?
do she have a commitment issuse. we both 20 n 21
2006-12-23 02:34:49 · update #1
ok well just forget about her. thats it. just forget about her
2006-12-23 02:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you at any time earlier during your 4 years relationship ever propose to her? Maybe not, and she felt that you weren't serious about marriage, and that could be why she broke up with you, despite all talk of kids and marriage!
It seems your emotional announcement of proposing to her in June did the trick in breaking the shackle of her past experience with you regarding a serious proposal. That both of you cried is a natural reaction when bottled up feelings are out, and it seems to me that both of you really want each other.
Now that the emotional ice is broken, both of you should think over the incident calmly. If you still feel that you want her, and also want to marry her, then ask for her hand. As you know each other for ove 4 years, there shouldn't be any problem in frank exchange of views between the two of you.
Don't rush her into making a decision. Give her time. If she responds positively, then go ahead. Maybe you might get married to her by June!
2006-12-23 10:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants so the best thing you can do is STOP contacting her. And don't take her calls. Don't say you can't do this because of course you can!! Get on with your life; it's not over, it's just headed in a different direction.
If or when she figures out what she wants, she may come crawling to you but that's not likely. Besides, if she does do that, you may be in a wonderful relationship with a girl who knows what she wants and you won't even care.
Think about this for a minute: why would you want to be with someone who doesn't know what she wants or if she wants anything to do with you??? What's in that for you on a long term basis?
MOVE ON!
2006-12-23 10:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely she will not come back particularly since she believes it is over. She probably cried due to the fact no one has ever said they thought at one time or another of asking her to marry them. If she felt no romantic connection then I would not wait on her if I were you. You may have a long wait. I really don't think from what you say that she wanted to think of a committed relationship.
2006-12-23 10:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its just a matter of time . She already decided to drop u and now being together and talking over to phone its all because its alwys take time to part ways.She need time to break up with u complete way. And because ur relatinship was 4 years old so its bit normal that ur in habit to be with each other..thr is very lil hope left in between u 2..so be wise and strong and accept the reality n accept tht she is no more ur GF.
2006-12-23 10:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Shaaz k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask you ex if there is a chance right now for you two get back together. If she says, "no", then walk away. Talking to her like this is accomplishing nothing except prolonging the hurt and keeping you from moving on. It's fine for you two to meet back as friends maybe 6 months to a year from now, but you need to heal first.
2006-12-23 10:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, relax, start dating some other women, put her out of your mind as much as you can.
You are young yet! If it was meant to be it will. If it wasn't then just move on. You got a lot of dating to do because finding that right woman means you gotta date a lot of the wrong ones first!
Good luck and oh yeah, you really need to work on your spelling.
2006-12-23 10:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by markawfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight.
Your ex broke up with you.
Then you decided to purpose to her in June? Why would you purpose to an ex girlfriend?
If you cant make a relationship work for more than 2 months what makes you think a marriage will work?
2006-12-23 10:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by thankgodformaryjane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find more women and don't give her another thought, she will never want a man that grovels and begs you idiot! Be a man and it could be that when she sees that she may become interested. When she does be sure you treat her like any of the other woman in your life, not special.
2006-12-23 10:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by bankshot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on dude the girl don't want to get married and she don't want to get married to you. I think you scared her with your smothering actions. She cried because she felt bad about what was happening it does not mean she is gonna marry you because you made her feel guilty. It is over and done so you had best move on. Next time do not be so intense and smothering and the girl might stick around. You sound way to desperate and needy I wouldn't marry you either.
2006-12-23 10:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, not a commitment problem but she doesn't feel the same as you do. It happens. She needs to let you know if she wants to be with you or not...not keep playing with your emotions.
2006-12-23 10:41:14 · answer #11 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋