Okay, I've been noticing alot of women post questions on here about men who play video games too much, or whatever stupid childish addiction they have, and most people say "If he isn't doing anything worse, let him do it." or "Try talking to him in a non-threatening way". Why do we have no right to just get out-right ANGRY when guys do this s*** to us? Why should we have to settle for "At least he DOESN'T (fill in the blank)"? He may not be drinking or cavorting with women, but the things he IS doing are equally damaging to the relationship. Why should we women walk on eggshells and not say anything to him that might upset HIM? We spend so much time on doing our hair, makeup, working 40 hours a week, cleaning, cookin, taking care of kids, etc., and yet we're made to feel as if we shouldn't ask anything in return to make US happy. It's as if we live in the Victorian era, where we have to tend to their happiness and keep our mouths shut about our own suffering. Why is this so?
2006-12-23 02:27:39 · 16 answers · asked by Kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Modern day relationships have really sliped past how a true and loving relationship should be. First off the guy should be helping with some of the house work, and when they don't, as the "head" of the family, the women should be able to talk to them about there feelings and what the male could do to help. It has gotten this way over a period of time, where males have now started thinking it's weak or that you are "whipped" for helping out or doing as the female in the house wants. There is nothing wrong with this at all. In fact to me it takes a real man to help out and still keep his pride. I always ask my wife if there is anymore that I can help her out with. When working together you draw closer AND it all gets done faster- leaving you more time to spend together and relax. Just because a man helps the woman out or listens to her does not make him weak.
2006-12-23 03:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by youranswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are taking the idea of "settling" too far. It does not mean that you end up with a drunk, a cheat, a beater, etc. I think by settle, it really refers to the fact that we realize that no one is perfect so we must learn to accept people with flaws. Cmon, everyone is flawed, including you and me. Think about the important qualities you must have in a mate. They must be honest, hard working, funny, etc. Then think about what are deal breakers, or things that you would never accept: a smoker, someone from a different religion, etc. Don't worry about the little things like looks, money, style, so on. I have a friend who always said she would never settle for anyone and now she is 35 and still alone. "Settling" for the goofy but super nice guy sometimes might mean "settling" for love. Remember, love is about accepting.
2016-05-23 01:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman is in a relationship that is making her unhappy it is because she doesnt just get up and leave...Life is too short to be unhappy and I say if the relationship is making you unhappy get out of it. Women dont have to settle for this, move on and find someone better. I prefer being single than having to be second to a ball game or video game. So, all these women in here asking these questions it is because they allow themselves to be treated like that..
2006-12-23 02:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because society has taught these women to settle by any means necessary. They have been programmed to think that singlehood past the age of 40 is the worst affliction for a woman possible. They never learned how to be truly independent and self-reliant.
2006-12-23 02:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is supply and demand. Right now America is a taco fest and becoming moreso. You women need to have more boys so in the future you have more men to choose from then you can choose better men. But if there are more women to men then some women will be left without and so they have to choose bad men over no men.
2006-12-23 02:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't have to. They choose to. They have low self esteems and feel they do not deserve any better. And even worse, they do not realize that women truly rule the world. A good man would give them the world if they were a good honest woman. It is very sad. It is all about choices, they choose these men. They are not forced to be in these relationships, they CHOOSE the. Have a blessed Christmas and a joyous New Year! God bless****
2006-12-23 02:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basically, sexism. A lot of people think that women should be subservient to men and should do whatever it takes to make their man happy, despite the cost to them.
2006-12-23 02:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your opinion. Not everyone has to like the guys YOU think are intelligent. Every Girl will always find something to complain about I guess, and you are just lame.
2006-12-23 02:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by KyKy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how you want to live if keeping your mouth shut makes you happy then do it, if not open it up and let it out. you have to do what makes you happy. my other half loves his cmputer games so i put a good film on in the bedroom snuggle up with my box of chocs and chill out by myself. i dont need him to keep me happy .
2006-12-23 02:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by NICOLA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even begin to imagine being that desperate. But some girls with extremely low self esteem seem to think they have to.
2006-12-23 02:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋