me and my ex have been going back and forth these pasted two mounths. We were together 4yrs. i love her so much. i told her how i feel and i was going to propese to her in june. i asked her for yime and space and that she think about all of this. She said no. then i talked and we both started to cry. i told her i am sorry and i will leave her alone. But i see i cant leave her alone. I love her deeply. i cant keep living like this i want to die, i wont her back so baddly it doesnt feel right and i am only making things worse. I really am preying to god he kills me if i cant have her, i dunno what i am going to do i talked to her last night and i emailed her telling her i am going to leace her alone. Why would she start crying too? why would she cry??? i dont understand this??? HELPPPPP
2006-12-23 02:22:51 · 12 answers · asked by detox_denny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
last night my best friend talked to her she said the last thing she want to hear about was us and marriege. She thought she was ready but started to get scared and she honeslty doesnt know what she wants. Saying i am an intance person. my friend defeanded me as the best man she'll ever find so how is this going to turn out?
2006-12-23 02:25:07 · update #1
Some times the chemistry is just not there for one of the two people involved and that's a difficult thing to explain to another person. I know that this is a very painful thing for you but you will find the right woman for you and when you do you will forget all about this person. I know, I've been through things in my life where I was praying for God to just take me. "Stop the world, I want to get off!!!" I know how painful it is, I really do. But, life will go on. They say time heals all wounds but I don't believe that. Time just allows us to figure out how to deal with the pain. Perhaps you could get involved in something that makes you feel good about yourself. Maybe take a class or put an un-used talent to use.
2006-12-23 02:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by tas211 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying if you love something let it go and if it comes back, its meant to be? Well with that being said, give her some time and space. She obviously still has feelings, that's why she was crying. I know the time and space thing will be hard, but it will be for the best. I wish you the best of luck with this.
2006-12-23 02:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although she is your ex-she is probably concerned about your well being! Even though there are relationships that don't work out, it doesn't mean that your ex would want to see you suffer or go through bad times-there are still descent people out there that have caring emotions! Remember your hurting now-but believe me time heals all wounds! It's hard to take a break up -but if it doesn't work it just doesn't! Take care of yourself and move on in to the future ahead! You will find happiness,trust me! Happy Holidays to you!
2006-12-23 02:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by dodlydink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude seriuosly if you don't pull your head out of your *** she is going to have you locked up........and if she finds this post she can use it against you in court. you exhibit classic signs of suicidal depression and are fixated on her to the point if I was a judge I would order a psycological evaluation and enforce a restraining order. she started crying because you scare the living crap out of her with your behavior. Im not trying to be a jerk but you need help. Based on this question your the type of dude that if she started dating someone else.you would either kill yourself or take her out and maybe a few innocent people as well. No one wants to see that.......you need to find professional help because you are in over your head. You also need to have NO CONTACT with this person AT ALL. for your own good. you need to move on and live YOUR life.
2006-12-23 02:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip! This is Life. Don't you think it would be better to go play racket ball or basket ball, something to put your time and energy into instead of just sitting around thinking about this. We have ALL gone thru this, we don't say we want God to kill us, He would not do that anyway. He loves us and wants us to be happy and your going thru this can only make you stronger. Get away from this computer, go find a buddy to play ball with, do something to get rid of some of these hormones. Its going to be find if you stop thinking about it all the time. Merry Christmas and don't forget to clean up your room!!@!!!
2006-12-23 02:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I often feel when people general acts like you acts out of guilt. If you gave your best and the relationship come to it's end you're happy to have love and can become mutual friends.....
2006-12-23 02:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by midavasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want ANYONE who would threaten to kill themselves or who would ask to be killed which would indicate that that person has some very serious problems.
You should leave her alone and get into some type of counseling.
2006-12-23 02:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant make her love you or want you, if you have to beg her to be with you, then she isnt worth the time and effort. NOBODY is irreplacable. maybe the mention of marriage scared her, maybe she is not ready for that sort of committment. give her time and see what happens.
2006-12-23 02:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by LissaStarr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breakups can be very HARD. Maybe its all for the better, just wait and see how you feel in a few months, maybe all your feeling is lust. Give it time. Good luck!!
2006-12-23 02:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. The only thing worse then a stalker is a stalker that can't spell.
2006-12-23 02:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋