my friend Meena loved a guy for abt 5 years already. He is from India and she is from S'pore. He is not close to his parents n is settle in S'pore for abt 10 yrs. Now for the sake of getting married to Meena, he asked permisson fr his parents, but they disapprove and he didnt care. Meena nvr told her father abt her boyfriend till recently abt 5-6 mths ago. Her father got very upset and stopped talking to her. He is also not allowing Meena to get married to him, becoz he is from India. Meen's father is afraid, the guy will bring her back to India. Which he will nvr do.
Now the guy got an offer to study and work for 2 years. And if he join this sponsership, he is not allowed to take any leave for his marriage. This sponsership requires 100% of his attendance for two years. So he wants to get marry to Meena by Mar 07. So he went to Meena house last week to talk abt the marriage. But the father told him, to wait, finish the studies then get married. He disapprove of getting married so fast.
The problem now is, meena is 26 and he is 30. IF they get married after two years, they will be very old. They want to get married now so that they can enjoy each other company while he studies and after two years give birth to a baby. But Meena's father dont understand this at all.
Meena's family and relatives all had spoken to him, but he is firm that the wedding shld be done after two yrs. What shld meena do? She is very upset. She was dreaming that, she will be freed from her father's strictness. (She is 26. but she got no freedom to go out or do whatever she likes).
So guys, can you suggest what meena shld do? she wants a wedding with her father blessing, so she wont leave the house n get married. Any good comments meena can follow?
2006-12-23 02:08:48 · 5 answers · asked by Violet Calla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it is a story, but anyway both should get married after 2 years.
You make 26 sound 36, but it is not a big deal now a days, is it?
If the guy would not get the time to get married, don't you think having a married life with his scholarship would interfere with his studies?
So either he has set up a deadline of March just for the sake of it, or Meena is foolish enough not to understand the importance of this scholarship for him.
At least her father is sensible......
2006-12-23 06:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by cool_cancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Meena is an adult. If she wants to marry the man that she loves, she should do it on HER timetable, not her father's. After all, they've already been dating for five years. Secondly, we can't always please everyone. In a perfect world, we can make everyone happy ALL the time. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect world. It's time that she lives for herself. Parents are supposed to love their children UNCONDITIONALLY. Maybe her father will come to this realization before it's too late. But she and her fiance need to do what's right for them.
2006-12-26 14:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by feefee2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...
meena has 2 options to choose from :-
1.) she can be considerate about her father and listen to him - she has to wait only 2 more years to get married. its not that god would be against them to get married after 2 years. her parents might be strict but have been taking care of her since she was born.
2.) she can consider her bf more than her father and get married against her father's will. nothing would actually happen. indian parents are very nice and emotional to their kids. they might remain angry for an year or so but afterwards they will accept it all.
alternative way ------------------------ the only reason why we cannot convince our parents is because we do not talk with them rationally. i am an indian - when i had to convince my dad - i just sat down with him , asked him why he would not agree and told him the reasons why i think i am right - and he agreed , that is a different story that the girl , i convinced him for, cheated on me big big time and now he does not want me to be serious with any girl but indian but still i know i can convince him - all i have to do is - be logical and smart while talking to him
2006-12-23 09:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well!!!! that is a nice story!!
why dont you leave meena for the time being and concentrate on other realistic things? stop daydreaming
2006-12-23 04:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may never get her fathers blessing.
she is a grown woman...marry the man an dmove away from her father.
2006-12-23 07:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋