If you dated a woman that was....?

Question

slim and sexy, intelleligent, great personality how would you feel if she put on weight? I notice that men have high expectations for women having the perfect figure.

However and I don't want to be mean...but majority of men in the U.K don't have any muscle tone at all. They are flabby yet expect their woman to look fantastic.

Now as all mature people know...when a woman has a baby it does not promote a great figure after. My friend had a great figure prior to having her baby. Pregnancy took its toll...her man complained like a shi*. The poor girl did eventually shift the weight...but I felt so bad for her as she was trying so hard to be a good first time mom and at the same time trying to please her boy friend.

What does the boyfriend look like I hear you ask...in a word FLABBY.

Mature answers please and no insults...thanx

Ouestion is in the first paragraph

Answer 1

thank you very much for the opportunity to answer this

this is all about evolution. men are very sensitive to women's curvature: their fat deposits.

it comes from man's desire to propagate & his assessment for a woman's childbearing capabilities.

there are trends every couple of centuries that fluctuate the preferred size & right now/recently it's been the stick thin variety of girl...

unfortunately fat deposits have a very low bearing on someone's intelligence and compatibility with you. so i personally don't tend to watch someone's weight when i'm trying to decide if they're beautiful or not.

but i can't get a rise off girls that are too thin. especially if they look sick, then i just want to care for them and buy them a KFC.

(have you worked out yet that i'm a black dude?) lol!

Some look like chidlren.

I like nice plump girls with good bosoms and firm buttocks and a nice healthy all round figure. i understand that "all round" isn't generally seen as beautiful by some men even if "all round" is exactly what they themselves are!

looks aren't the most important thing about a person. no one is saying it is but usually that's the first criteria that someone assesses when asking themselves about compatibility.
it shouldn't be.

hopefully people's perceptions will change

i always wondered about how girls feel about being nice looking and having all the men look either like too much of a player or totally flabby... (another reason why it's great to be a guy and not so great to be a girl) you have my sympathies!!

merry christmas!

Answer 2

People can be so mean.I always believed that if someone can find fault that they are only trying to hide the things that they feel insecure about on their own body.I have had 5 kids and put on a little more wait with each child, but my husband thinks that I am the most beautiful person he has ever seen. A womans true figure does not come out until she has a child any how.A man will also gain when he gets in his 30's.I believe that true love is blind.You should only see the good and he should love her more and think that she is more beautiful for having his child.

Answer 3

I don't think men expect the woman to remain thin and trim forever. It is only natural for a pound here and there to be added over time. As long as it is gradual and the woman still carries the essence of her original shape (all the weight doesn't all go to one place), I would still find her physically attractive.

I've lived through the aftermath of childbirth a few times. Stretch marks are no big deal. Extra skin that won't go away. Drooping that wasn't there before. To me, that's what foundation garments are for!

Now if she ballooned from svelt to obese, I hope she would understand my lack of attraction. I would still love her with all my heart. But I would have to close my eyes and imagine the woman before she gained so much weight in order to perform in the bedroom.

Answer 4

I think it would depend on the situation.

If I was dating a woman who ate healthy and worked out all the time and was in great shape. I would be upset if she got comfortable in the relationship and just let herself go.

But having a child, or health problems, or just simply growing older, are all legit reasons for putting on a few pounds.

I eat healthy and work out 3 to 4 times per week, and I tend to gravitate towards people who do the same but my wife of many years could afford to lose a few pounds but I would never complain or say anything to her.

Answer 5

Men in this country (the UK) seem to want their cake and eat it. They want to have the perfect woman but don`t seem to give a monkeys about how they feel as long as the woman on their arm is better than anyone elses. Shallow is something that comes to mind with something like that.

They need to grow up and accept the woman that they have or risk losing her to blind pig-headedness, any other way and they may as well stamp their feet and throw the toys out of the cot.

Answer 6

It depends i suppose. Sometimes it's difficult to shed a few extra pounds. If I loved someone I wouldn't really be bothered if they put a few pounds on. I'm not exactly Mr Universe so it's not for me to say anything. I understand how you feel about big bloaty fat guys telling their girls to slim down.
And surely, if someone has had a baby then are they not too busy to be bothered about who has got a bit bigger?
All part of life's rich tapestry I guess. Merry Christmas.

Answer 7

i feel sorry for her its hard enough being a first time mum let alone pressure from her other half. men seem to think its ok for them to get flabby as they get older (its a mans thing to do). but when a women does it they are the first to say. however not all men are like this im just sorry that hers is. i hope she is happy and lost weight for herself and not for him.

Answer 8

well its OK after a few years to put a few extra pounds on but to go from one extreme to another may cause the person to re-evaluate and make a determination to get some gym help or weight loss program to bring themselves more in line with what they were perceived

Answer 9

you friend should have told him they should loose the weight together, see this is the problem with women we always try to look good for the men and yet they dont bother.when my husband says Angelina is hot i always say have you seen the chest on brad.if he says Posh is hot i say have you seen the legs on Beckhem,when he says Cam Diaz is hot i say have you seen the moves Justin has.that teaches him that as much as he wants me to look like a hollywood star i would love him to look like one as well,if he can then i can!

Answer 10

i would not mind if she put on some weight -- she is too thin (health problems) --- and childbirth is a separate issue but again that is not a problem --- i say with great confidence as my ex wife had 3 kids and did put on some weight but i still loved her