Hello All,
How would you help someone who is very shy when meeting women. Not sure if it's insecurity about myself or just doesn't take failure well. Is this stupid? Help!!
Happy Holidays
2006-12-23 01:28:50 · 18 answers · asked by massmale_99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I used to be that way. Take baby steps. Just smile and say hello. Don't try to do too much too soon. Don't pressure yourself to be cool.
Man, I wish I could have a do-over for the last 30 years of my life. It all seemed so frightening at the time. What was I so scared of?
You have to believe in yourself. You have to think you are a worthwhile person getting to know.
My problem was I had already fantasized about the girl before I decided to talk to her. Bad move. Now if she doesn't like me I'm crushed! You've got to be casual. Relax and be yourself. You are an awesome dude! Don't worry and have fun.
2006-12-23 01:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have confidence within yourself. And keep in mind when approaching someone. They are probably just as nervous as you, it is human nature. And keep in mind, no one likes or enjoys being told no. All of us, yes even the most beautiful women have been turned down at least once. Keep your chin up and just go for it. The more you do it the easier it becomes. And you never know the woman you find attractive, may also find you attractive, however, she is to shy to say hello. That is all if takes is a hello. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-23 01:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's being afraid that being rejected MIGHT be crushing. It's reacting to that "maybe" and not the women themselves. It won't change until you try it and see that you survive no matter what the outcome with the woman is. You've got to take the risk in real live situations so experience will prove it.
Women, tell him there are plenty of you out there just as anxious to be approached. Since you're only talking here a two-by-four over the head is what it's going to take.
2006-12-23 01:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I suspect you are mostly shy with someone you want a deeper relationship with - the mind/heart has leaped ahead of the head. If you try to meet a woman starting from a possibility of friendship - that may help.
When we meet someone and think beyond that all our insecurities arise.
Good luck
2006-12-23 01:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not stupid! It does sound like a bit of insecurity and rejection at work here. Both of those things can spoil alot of opportunities in different areas of your life. If you ask a woman out, and she says "no" isn't it better than kicking yourself later because you are thinking "what if she would have said yes"...
2006-12-23 01:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes a while getting use to. if you can try and meet people instead of "women' first it might be a good start. and as for being stupid, shyness is shyness, but you only live once and this not a rehearsal
2006-12-23 01:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just casually take him out to meet people. Take him to a bar or something where the opposite sex will be and try to strike up some conversations.
2006-12-23 01:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't treat it like a CONQUEST, treat it as meeting a different person. Talk yourself into it, you can't live your whole life by someone else's approval. Live Life, Have Fun. God Bless and Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 01:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy going up and talking to women, it's like cold calling at a telemarketing job. Some men are naturally better at it than others.
However, the more you do it the better you will be at it. If you can handle getting the brush off, the hand, the cell phone ringing all of a sudden, the drink thrown in your face, you can learn from your mistakes and get better at it.
In my experience as long as you are sincere, and don't act like a jerk, it is something that will come easy to you.
2006-12-23 01:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
we are bound to fail in life sooner or later and for me i prefer it to be soon.Why?because thats the only way to learn what doesn't kill you makes you stronger you want to know what this girl is about confront your fears maby she just doesn't deserve you or maybe you'll hit it on in the first day you'll never know unless you try stupid is not to do so.
Happy holidays
2006-12-23 01:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋