I'm 18 at went to uni this october, me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 2yrs and everything was fine as far as i was aware. Uni hasnt caused the problems i thought it may have done, and we visit and have stayed very much in love. However i've just come home for xmas, and my bf has been actin very unlike himself. He seems cold and emotionless, and doubtful of our relationship, which hes never been like. He says he still loves me and wants 2 b with me, but only when i ask him so. I feel like he doesnt want to spend time with me or be with me, as he never rings or txts. He used 2 b very sweet and soppy, which i loved, but hes no longer like this. He recently moved out his rents, and in with his best mate, he doesnt have many friends and tells me he gets really lonely since ive been gone. i think he might be depressed? i fel like hes envious of his single friends, but tells me he doesnt want to be with other girls. im so lost, the way hes actin is hurtin me so much, what do i do?
2006-12-23 00:59:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you told him how much his behaviour is hurting you? I would make him realise this first and see what he says. Maybe he felt abit neglected whilst you were at Uni, and so is giving you the silent treatment to show you how it feels.
This aint your fault as you cant help being buisy at Uni and he needs to realise this.
Its great that he says he loves you and still wants to be with you, and Im sure he means it too.
I would just give him his space and dont force him to talk if he doesnt want to as this will make him worse. He will talk when he is ready.
If you get a chance, read the book "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars". Its really helped me to understand mens behaviour.
Im sure things will work out for you.
Good Luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 01:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Is tú mo ghrá Eire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be in a committed, long distance relationship. He may be acting odd because seeing you again is giving him mixed feelings. He probably misses you while you are gone and knows you will be leaving again soon, so does not want to get to attached to you. Or, there is the possibility that he has started liking other girls and does not know how to tell you.
Maybe you two should agree to remain friends, but date other people while you are away. If you decide to get back together later, then you will be ready and have had some life experiences.
2006-12-23 01:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to b honest I'm not gonna sugar coat n e thing i left and went to Oklahoma 4 my job at a correctional facility and i was gone 4 30 days and me and my b/f lived 2gether and when i came back same thing.well we r no longer 2gether and u wanna know y?he was cheating and lying.I'm not sayin he is but could he have done something wit someone else due to his loneliness at dat time and is guilty about it now? u need to give him a ultimatum u know how guys r they give themselves away when they have done something wrong and dont even realize it! what u need to do is demand some answers and stop letting him stress u out when u have done nothing wrong! talk to him cuz lack of communication isn't gonna make things better.and another thing men will use other excuses instead of the right reasons for their actions! but b a woman and hold your ground.this is all from experience so i know.y? cuz my ex dat did me like dat to this day tries to get back with me.it may hurt at first but show your strength and everything else will fall into place.and besides if he cant talk to u about his problems then what r u there for?
2006-12-23 01:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by bossy_chocalate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a site with depression description and "hint" and then ask him the questions. Depression seems to be a good bet. It's also possible he feels "left out" of your life as your world has expanded and seems exciting and attractive and he's not sure he fits in there anymore.
2006-12-23 01:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HES needless to say cheating! unload HIM! You deserve greater useful. At this factor he sounds like he has a sort of capability over you and that he can get away with something. you may ruin up with him till now he does with you, or till now you get your coronary heart broken via surely catching him interior the act.
2016-10-18 22:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by janovich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it. If that doesn't work, leave.
2006-12-23 01:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋