I am divorced, my son was 12 when his father left. My son felt like he lost his father and he did. His father has nothing to do with him. It got so bad that i did let him stay with his father for about 7month, that was a big mistake.His father didn't watch him.He let him go didn't make him go to school so he dropped out. Of course his father got tired of him and sent him back to me tatooed,pierced,with a bad attitude.At 18 he has a death wish. He can't see a future for himself. A girl introduced him to shooting up and its been a nightmare. He has overdosed 3times, he cant stop. I have had him in and out of 4places already.I can't understand why they keep letting him out. They know he needs to stay longer. I need a place that will help him, I have spent all my money, I have no insurance, and I can't watch him kill himself, cause its killing me. He realizies that i am all he has and the only one who care. I hate going and getting him, I have left him several times. He has no where to go.
2006-12-23 00:53:23 · 6 answers · asked by ASE 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
speaking from experience with my hubby, it hurts like hell when you have to finally give up ,you don't stop loving and caring for them ,but the hold that drugs has on people that do drugs meth, is very strong,stronger then even the love they might be still capable of showing.He ,s going to have to want to do it for him self on his own,you cant do it for him, but he will most likely tell you he needs your help and still go right on doing it ,you will stay broke and mentally distraught, they don't think clearly as I'm sure you have seen by now. And he has no where to go because of choices (He has been making) Be strong good luck
2006-12-23 17:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by cindybells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for you! I was kind of this way when i was younger so i can relate. I was in and out of rehabs myself and they never worked bc i was always doing it for sometone esle other than myself. Anyway, as i grew older i grew wiser and am pretty well now. What you need to do is get him ordered by a court to a long term facility. You can go to a judge and tell him that your son is a treat to himself and others around him and get a court order for him to go to treatment. He needs to go for at least a yr. and even then it's not a for sure thing. He is very young and may have a ways to go.............you really have to want it in your heart before it works!!!! There are long term facilities that are no cost but you need to call a hotline or the hospitals around you would know...........................good luck and God bless!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-23 09:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by VICTORIA L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is so much I want to say to you, but I don't know where to begin. You said your son is shooting up, so I am assuming he is using heroin? I am here to tell you that unfortunately there isn't much else you can do for him because he is over 18, and has to want to do it for himself. Unfortunately, I know this because I went thru it for 5 years with my son and that drug, and nothing helped. In and out of rehab several times, in and out of jail, off and on the streets, living under bridges in Chicago. Over-dosing several times, and finally. it did kill him, almost 6 years ago, when he was only 22 years old. I tried getting him into rehabs, but none of them are equipped to help herion addicts, because 28 days is not going to do it. They need to be out of society for a good year. I know that in the New York area there is a hospital that if you are a state resident he can get into, but thats about it. Where do you live? If you would like to email me, I do beleive I have this set up for that. If not, let me know on here and I will write to you. Otherwise, I will pray for you and your son.
2006-12-23 10:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by joaniebalonie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a relationship with the Lord, then I would advise you to get one. Just pray for him, God has pulled me out of some places that the US military wouldn't go. Give God a try. I'll pray from you as well.
2006-12-23 08:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by REV MCD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you think your life is bad, there is always things to be thankful for. i am so thankful right now. this is one of the most heart wrenching situation a mother could possibly go thru. do you believe in prayer? i do. i will ask everyone to pray for you little boy. in the meanwhile, seek guidance thru your pastor. don't have one? get one! please. it can't hurt to try God. i'm not a big christian, however, i pray for guidance for sure. hand it over to God and let him take care of your son. let us know what happens. whatever happens, that is Gods will. good luck and i mean this...God bless you! i am going to the appropriate category also to ask christian folk to pray for you lil boy. if you read this message...pray for her little boy. thanks
2006-12-23 09:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...i don't know maybe you should try and get some counselling, and clean him up yourself?, i don't know, there's also the possibility, that at some point you will have to just let him go and hope for the best, since only he can decide to be clean, and make something of himself...
2006-12-23 08:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by no_bsht 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋