My boyfriend wants to have sex with me.Should i agree to him.But i am feeling that i am going against my valves and the manners given to me by my parents.But i love him so much and cant live without him,what should i do now?
2006-12-23 00:44:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SEE AS GENTLEMAN I NEVER ADVISE YOU TO HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE BECAUSE ONCE YOU HAVE TASTE OF IT YOU CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT THIS AND IT WILL BECOME YOUR HABIT AND IT WILL BE DANGEROUS FOR ANY LADY TO HAVE REGULAR SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE.
2006-12-23 00:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First thing...SEX is NOT love. You can love someone without having sex.
Sex is for procreation. Are you ready to have a baby?
(the answer should be no)
If you are on the pill...then maybe, but keep in mind that you could be ruining your life by having a baby at your age. (assuming you are pretty young still)
Once you can survive on your own I would say ok. Do it.
By that I mean have a car that you pay for, a place to live, money saved up and a steady income.
Don't feel pressured into sex. If someone is pressuring you then they don't love you they just want to use your body.
2006-12-23 08:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well dont ask anybody because each and everyone have a different point of view however u sud ask i agree but do what your heart say is correct because sex is not only the thing that should keep you together.
You refuse him for sex and see the reaction if he agrees for it then there arte no issues means he is very true and he can wait like as you can wait too. But if he creates scene and gets angry and all that stuff then i dont think that he is a right choice for you because the person who gets angry just coz u didnt agreed for sex before marrige then he is just with you for sex.
So its you who will have to decide that what should be done. To do or not to do. Just follow your heart. However try to reduse him and if he agree then its good for you and if he disagrees and all that stuff then just remember what i said. As hes with you only for sex.
Give it a thought.
Think wisely.
Think about every aspect of it.
An still if u go to do it then use protections too like condoms and birth control pills coz i think atleast you wont like to conceive before marrighe however also keep other trhings in mind that if he sopreads a word or if your parents come to know about it then what will be the consequence i mean just dont do it because you will oose you boyfriend. Do it if u like it. If you dont like and dont feel to do it then dont go for it. and also think about every thing and still if u want to do it then be prepared for all other results that you have thought and also keep your excuses ready too ;) so that you could defend yourself in the time of distress.
But still i wud say that if u think that your boyfriend will leave you if u refuse him then i will say hes not tyhe right person for you. Your boyfriend should respect your values and your feelings too.
2006-12-23 08:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Vijay Agarwal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very Good, i would say. If you have the courage to write this question then u can convey to ur boy friend that "u r feeling that ur going against ur family values given to u by ur parents".
If he respects u, he will definitly respect ur feelings, well if he's still assertive even after that, then i'll not b happy with this guy.
Advice: Plz do not compromise on your family values.
2006-12-23 09:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sunlight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U love him; but anyway thats wrong. But having sex is very very wrong thing. You guys think sex is a simple thing? I know u are good and innoscent.(i guess) Sex willl lead u to life problem.
And see, today SUPPOSE u had sex. What if he leaves u tomorrow?
Thinking twice before doing a thing will give u a better result tan u think once.
So think and all the best.
2006-12-24 08:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Meera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything that you aren't 100% sure of. I grew up in a Christian home and I have felt that pressure from guys too. It was hard but I resisted. I and actually proud to say I'm still virgin today(17) and I plan to remain one until I get married. I think that my future husband will thank me for not giving it up.
2006-12-23 09:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is asking you to have sex, and in your gut, you don't want to, then follow your gut feelings. Once you have sex with someone you can't go back, it changes everything. If he truly loves you, he will respect your feelings. You may feel like you can't live without him, but in reality you CAN if need be.
2006-12-23 08:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he will respect your values. If you are over 18 you are old enough to decide for yourself what those values are and the "manners given to you by your parents". But if your values are the same as theirs and you really don't want to have sex with him then don't. If he doesn't respect you then he doesn't deserve to be with you.
2006-12-23 08:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by trishay79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If two adults agree to have sex unconditionally.........there is an enormous flow of love between them-no matter whether they are going to marry or not. Sex is not a crime, it is a necessity as food & shelter is. If your consience is open to it please go ahead or else say " NO" to it. Dont sit on the fence. Be yourself and clear to any proposals of life. " Never say yes when you want to say no" and vice versa.
2006-12-27 03:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u should not do this it may hurt ur parents may be by doing this this can be seen by anyone who is unkown to everybody and he or she may tell this to the whole town or city and then ur parents will have to listen to many words which they might not have thought that becuase of u they have to suffer so plz do not do this with him or else u will be in a big trouble.
2006-12-23 08:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kittu s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never go against the values and moral respects.
If your BF wants u to do so prior to marriage he does not honor the moral and traditional value, Say him to do marriage and then only go for sex.
NEVER TRUST HIM, HE MAY LEAVE U AFTER HAVING SEX.
TAKE CARE
RESPECT VALUES.
2006-12-23 12:38:36 · answer #11 · answered by AVANISH JI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋