i am currrently in a long distance relationship, he is in dubai and im in the phil...i always think negative when it comes to how is he?,where is he?, is he safe?does anybody hurt him?is he still alive?does he has another gf?does he still love me and many more.were okay..now, but we always fight about boys, he dosent allow me to chat in the internet w/ my ex- boyfriends and whats the bad thing is i promised him and i still chat w/ boys...
i came from a all girls school and i dont even have a guy best friend...as in no one!
and after i confess what i did, we always end un fighting...it makes me more depressed..he is in dubai because he is working for our future, he is 21&im 17he is almost 6 months there and he has a contractual job there.3 years straight,,i miss him so much.i dont know what to do.i always think more of like is he safe when he walks to go to his working place and all that.i need advice...i dont know why i still flirt w/other guys maybe to fill the emptyness of his love
2006-12-23 00:37:31 · 11 answers · asked by sixteenforever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's okay to worry about him but you're going a little overboard. Is there a counselor at school who can give you advice about where you can get therapy at? Seeing a therapist doesn't mean you're mentally ill or crazy. It might help you figure out why you have these irrational fears about his safety and his loyalty to you. Why do you feel the need to tell him you go on-line to chat? You're only "hurting him". Do you want to make him jealous and get his attention so by being upset and arguing with you it lets you know (in a negative way) that he still loves and cares for you? You are right about filling the emptiness with flirting with other guys on-line. I think this is harmless unless you plan on meeting the guys. It's not cheating so if it makes you feel better and helps you get through your loneliness go ahead and do it but for God-sakes don't go telling your boyfriend. There is no need for him to know. You still have a long time before he comes home so make things a little easier on yourself a find a therapist to talk to. That might make you want to chat with guys a little less. Sorry this was so long!
2006-12-23 01:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young to be in a serious relationship and way too young to be in a long distance one. While you are waiting for him, your youth is passing you by. Of course you want to talk to other guys! You should be out having fun, not home worrying about a man who may or may not be in your future. Tell him the truth--that this long distance relationship is not working for you and that you need to have other friends while he is away. You can still see him when he returns, if that is what you choose, but in the meantime, live your life!
He will be gone for three years and you will be an entirely different person when he returns--an adult! Have fun and don't feel any guilt about living your life. He chose to leave the country and you have choices too.
2006-12-23 08:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should end this relationship. You are too young to be without love and affection and it will be impossible to maintain a long term relationship like this for 3 years. You shold both bedating other people. You will probably both have a better time and be happier. Break up and move on. It's not uncommon to have good friends of the same sex. Men too, have trouble having regular platonic friends of the opposite sex. Eventually we learn that women and girls make good friends, not just lovers. Good luck and be happy - you two should probably stay friends and it's ok to write to each other about your dating. Try to have fun with that. He will appreciate having your perimission to date, though he may deny it at first. Set yourselves free!
2006-12-23 08:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by sparetom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love has no confusion. If you have a question about someone you love, then you need to think again, is this one for you. Sometime love will take you to trouble that you can’t stand it, but still enjoying it.
2006-12-23 08:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, get a life, you are seventeen!
It's not normal to have a serieus realtion at your age!
Chatting with boys? Enjoy, it's normal!
Maybe you have to date them to and go on with your life.
If he is so stupid to get a contract job and leave you alone and also give you orders what to do when he is not there, come on, wake up!
2006-12-23 08:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by AlinaU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to realise that isolation in a relationship is very difficult ; but if he loves you enough -- he'll be back --- you have to hang in there --- if you can' then split the sheets !!
2006-12-23 08:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a psychologist/psychatrist(sp?) and specifically request electroshock treatment.
2006-12-23 08:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
u should probably let go of him if he's holding u back and u r bored
2006-12-23 08:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Wild Child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't tell him what you do for fun. Happy cheating.
2006-12-23 08:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i sometimes have this problem just chill out. if this is too much stress for you thenbreak up, dont put yourself through too much stress.
2006-12-23 08:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋