I've been with a guy for 5 years and have 2 kids by him. We've had problems in the past, he has hit me and cheated on me. My sister can't stand him and she even told him what she thinks of him. Now he got sent to prison and my sister told me she's not surprised and called him a bad name. He writes me and said he's sorry and wants me to be there for him. I believe he's telling the truth and is sorry for committing a crime. My sister finally told me do whatever I want, just don't ever mention his name in front of her. Why does she have so much hatred for him? She's not perfect either!
2006-12-23 00:28:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you read what you have written??? You have been with someone who treats you like a dog, hits you, cheats on you, and doesn't care about you or your children you have together or he wouldn't have broken the law and got sent to prison, leaving you with all the responsibility of caring for your children. Don't you have any pride in yourself? Do you not think you deserve better??? Well you do!!!
Your sister is only trying to protect you and your children by trying to make you see what kind of a man, (and I use that term very loosely) you have hooked up with. WAKE UP AND SEE THAT YOU ARE WORTH BETTER THAN HE CAN GIVE!! AND YOUR CHILDREN DEFINITELY DESERVE BETTER!!! They did not ask to be in the situation you have put them in, so protect your children. DROP THIS LOSER NOW!!! TELL HIM YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN HIM! Of course he is going to tell you he is sorry for committing a crime, he is in prison. He is only sorry he got caught!! If he hadn't got caught, would he be apologizing for it? NO! He would probably still be committing crimes and putting you and those children in the middle of it!!
SO GET A BACKBONE, AND DUMP THIS BUM!!
2006-12-23 01:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sister is right. I wouldn't have anything to do with him either. He sounds like a total loser. He HIT you he CHEATED on you. Now he is an idiot who ended up in prison. Go to counseling and divorce him and move on with your life. You are setting a bad example for your kids by putting up with this abuse.
Your sister probably feels disgusted by the fact that you value yourself so little. You need help and need to wake up and see that he is mentally ill and unable to be part of a healthy relationship.
2006-12-23 08:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey, you are the one who doesn't understand. You need your phucing head examined or exchanged for a new one. You need to figure out why you think you deserve a dead-as-s loser who is a shitee role model for your children. You need to fall on your knees and kiss the ground your sister walks on. Your last two sentences say it all . . . If you don't see anything wrong with this guy . . . then you've got what you deserve.
I don't know why we get these freaking "victims" on here when all they need is a good kick in the a-ss to "wake up". Sheeeesh!!!
2006-12-23 08:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! She knows that but it's not about who's perfect . She loves you & to see you go through pain at the hand of a man that sounds like he knows how to play you just right is what's not perfect.Sometimes people on the outside of our relationship can see what's going on better than we can cause at times love will blind the hell out of you. Don't be mad at her cause she just wants the best for you & hope you the best to for you & the kids sake. Been there & done that!
2006-12-23 08:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally thinks that you need to listen to your sister. this guy is just trying to make you feel like he loves you. but if he's cheated on and beat you and then gone to prison, then he's probably not the best choice. and no we're not all perfect but you have to draw a line somewhere
2006-12-23 08:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is not perfect, but she is doing what she thinks she should to protect the person she loves, YOU! She hates him because he treats you so badly. Get some help and find out why you continue to stand by a man that abuses you.
2006-12-23 08:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by jingles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suspect it's because she sees the damage he has done to you and the disrespect he's shown you and how he has abandoned you. And you? If you like being hit and cheated on and abandoned by your guy, keep doing what you are doing because it's working very well. You realize your decisions regarding him aren't good ones, right?
2006-12-23 08:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably because she cares for you a lot and she just doesnt want you to get hurt by him thats probably why she hates him so much
2006-12-23 08:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ginny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because shes sick of seeing you get treated like sh*t because she loves u
2006-12-23 10:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by annette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋