When I told my husband that I was gettin the marriage annuled, he cursed me out infront of the neighbors, and told me that I was ugly. That all of his exes were pettier and better sexually, that I had stretchmarks, that I would never find someone else...
my question is...WHY...? If I was that ugly, why did he marry me, and not his ex ? Of course after that episode I am refusing to answer his phone calls...so he text me and said that if I don't answer his calls and listen to what he has to say, he will ruin my reputation due to some pictures he has of me...WOW this man is finally showing his true colors, because just a few hours before this conversation he told me how much he loved me and wanted to work things out...does he have split personalities, or is he just plain evil? I have caught him in many lies before...WHO is this person that I married ? He was so charming and kind when he proposed...??? Why would a man do such a thing to a woman who was always kind to him and supported him
2006-12-23 00:25:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like someone i dated very childish his threats was always just talk and no action
2006-12-23 00:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by dee_ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorces are often ugly and yes, they do bring out the worst in people (sadly). I have been there too. It's hard to watch the partner you gave your heart to turn from the person you knew, into someone you wish you hadn't.
Rest assured that the words being strewn at you right now are simply words of hurt and anger. I would have a hard time believing that if your husband were of a sensible mind right now, that he would say those things. I think divorce is especially difficult for me to handle. It is a big wound to the ego. Women tend to handle it better as they are often more in touch with thier emotions to begin with.
As your relationship slowly ends, and your husband feels the finalness of everything, he is lashing out at you almost as a child would when they lose the game. Plus, since you are the one that initiated the split, he is even more hurt, embarrased, and agered by that.
I am sure if teh divorce does happen, within some time, you two will be able to talk sensibly and be civil to one another. That may take a very long time however, as there are just too many emotions right now.
If I were you, I would do my best not to escalate anything now. I would just tell him that you will talk with him when he has calmed down, or when he can be more civil. No one deserves to be spoken to like that. He will soon see if he want to talk to you, that his current approach is not ging to work.
Anyway, good luck to you. It will probably get worse before it gets better. Hang in there.
2006-12-23 00:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By rejecting him you crushed his ego. His sense of self worth hit rock bottom. His reaction was to lash back, not to make you feel smaller but to make him feel better about himself. When my ex told me she did not want to be married anymore, it devastated me. I refrained from doing these things but can not get over the feel of being a loser that no one would want. I have come to the conclusion that I have to spend my life alone. On the other hand many people look for validation by jumping into a relationship, even marriage to fast and then only find them self in the same boat once again. He needs help and should see a therapies. Good luck
2006-12-23 01:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by bgt242 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there must have been something else wrong for you to split. Maybe there's more to it on his side than you're saying. Anyway . . . he was feeling bad, and it's some people's first instinct to try and spread the misery. I bet he thinks HE won't be able to find anyone else, and he has low self-esteem. Some people like that like to put other people down when they get in a bind. Have a nice day! Good luck with the next one!
2006-12-23 00:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you pregnant before you got married? That could be one reason he married you. The second is, guys often get into trouble by not wanting to say no to a girl, so it might go like this, Her: Baby, I want to get married. Him: (I better say ok or I might not get any tonight but I hope shes not serious.) Ok, sweetheart lets get married. We hope there will be time or a way out of it but once we have said yes, that starts the ball rollin and sometimes we can't figure out how to stop it. I got married, agreed to two kids before I knew what hit me. Took me 10 years to get out of it and now that I am free, I'll NEVER do that again!
2006-12-23 00:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by mrfoxhorn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute .....................
What he said and did was presumably done in anger and things done in the heat of anger would often be better not done, but you say that you said to him that you were getting the marriage annulled.
You may have said something you didn't actually mean, and it's true that there are minor differences between jurisdictions with regard to what are regarded as valid grounds for annullent, but one reasonably typical set of guidelines says
Examples of when you may seek an annulment of your marriage are:
* The marriage has not been consummated.
* At the time of marriage your spouse was already married to someone else.
* One of you was under 16 years of age when you get married.
* You have married a close relative.
* Your spouse had a venereal disease at the time of marriage and they knew about it but you didn't.
* Your spouse was pregnant with another person's child at the time of the marriage and they knew about it but you didn't
Precisely which of these were you proposing to adduce as grounds for annulment?
2006-12-23 00:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just bitter that he can't have you anymore. You don't deserve someone who would disrespect you, especially in front of the neighbors! It's a good thing you wised up and it's not too late to annul.
You are much better without someone like him! What a jerk!
2006-12-23 00:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by my2cents4ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Annulled. So you didn't have any sex in your marriage. That is the only way you can get a marriage annulled. No wonder he has an attitude. Besides, you don't even know how to spell the word annulled. Guess you're going to end up living alone in your trailer.
2006-12-23 00:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
females get married for an same motives that adult men sow their wild oats. Genetic inheritance. For our prehistoric ancestors, females were depending on adult men to provide foodstuff and guard. so that they went after the most effective adult men because they often is the perfect companies for themselves and their offspring. females nonetheless opt for to bond with a male who's a superb service. it really is interior the genes. i have study all the theories about our ancestry causing infidelity in men, yet I actually have under no circumstances heard a guy heavily tell a lady that he has to have many associates because of his genes. From the way you communicate, distinct adult men have actual reported that to you. Is that correct???? PULEZE!
2016-10-16 21:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said those things to break you down. He wants you to believe that he did you a favor by marrying you and you will never find anyone as good as him. It's all a crock of s@#t to mask his feelings and make you feel bad.
2006-12-23 00:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by buffybeast 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is just like what you said split personalities. Don't go back cause you know that other side & it will show up everytime he doesn't get his way & you deserve better.
2006-12-23 00:30:41 · answer #11 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋