My 21yr old best friend was raped 6 months ago and didn't tell her boyfriend until last night.The guy who did it was her boyfriend's brother whom he hates with a passion.When she told him he went off at her for not reporting it and not telling him sooner letting the creep get away.What the **** is the guy's problem?How dare he try to make it about him?This doesn't have anything to do with him.She was too scared to come forward and report him or tell her boyfriend because she was afraid what her boyfriend would do to his brother if she told him before the brother got out of the country.Please somebody explain to me what that asshole of a boyfriend of hers is thinking.
2006-12-23 00:14:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not trying to make it about himself; he's expressing anger over what happened to his girlfriend. He obviously cares for her, and when he found out that something horrible happened, he got upset. Wouldn't you?
Maybe it's not the most considerate thing, but it's how guys deal with bombshells like that. Cut him some slack and let them work it out.
2006-12-23 00:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Before you say anything to your brothers, you should call law enforcement NOW. The longer you wait, the harder you make it for law enforcement to do their job. I understand why might feel the need to include your brothers in on it, but there is no requirement that you do so. If you feel the need to have someone present when you make a report, do it.......but alone or with someone just DO IT. That guy should be in prison. It is likely he will do this again...if not to you, to somebody else. I'm a bit confused when you mention pregnancy. You are saying that you were already pregnant BEFORE the rape, correct? If that is what you were trying to say... the answer to your question would be no. It will not be your boyfriends brothers baby. It doesn't work that way.... If you are saying that you are concerned about becoming pregnant due to this event, you need to take action as soon as possible....but there is no way you could know if you have become pregnant from an event that happened this morning. It would be too soon to tell. Have you contacted a rape crisis center? If you are near one, I would strongly advise you do so right away. Not only can they provide you with knowledge and support, they can give you advice on who to contact for after care. When you make statements like you feel it's your fault it happened, and you are having flashbacks, it indicates you may find it difficult to deal with the emotional aspects on your own. You must understand that rape is never the victim's fault. No matter how others may try to describe it, rape is a crime of violence. The victim doesn't want it, doesn't ask for it, and doesn't cause it.
2016-05-23 01:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's right in a way. She should have come forward with the info before. He shouldn't complain too much about it, but still. She could have just told the police and they would pick up the bf's brother . . . no need to involve her bf. I still don't see how he's making it about him. He just wishes he could have helped her in her time of need and he probably feels like she doesn't trust him or something. Have a nice day!
2006-12-23 00:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with her. And of course her boyfriend could be more comforting on the matter, however, his reaction does not show in anyway that he does not care for her. Men have a tendency to show compassion by wanting to fix what went wrong. And in this case their is little he can do to fix it because she did not go to the authorities right away. Men do not like to feel helpless especially when a loved one has been hurt.
2006-12-23 00:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kogetsu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should have reported him, there isn't anything to be scared about. Her boyfriend did go about it the wrong way. What he should have done when he found out was find his brother and beat the shyt out of him. Not yell at her, he just didn't have a place to direct his anger and he was probably mad at himself for not realizing. and not being there when she needed him most.
2006-12-23 00:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well that is actually not an uncommon reaction id imagine. giving him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he reacted that way because he was afraid that she hadn't told him. Maybe he would have wanted to help her deal with the situation instead of her stewing about it with out support. just a thought.
2006-12-23 00:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by poof10958 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she knew he was that much of a hot head and didn't want to see him get in trouble she should have waited till next they met and found the opportunity to drug his A## and take a hammer to his jewels... Then tell the boyfriend why...Heh Heh!!
2006-12-23 00:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Dan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read poetry and tell your friends the same.
2006-12-23 00:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS go to a hospital and report it first. She was not smart for waiting for six months.
2006-12-23 00:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by know_it_all_NOT 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WTF?! What is wrong with you!
She should of reported it, she shouldn't let the creep get away with it. If she doesn't he'll do it to someone else.
Her boyfriend is right.
2006-12-23 00:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋