why is communication often difficult for married people?

Answer 1

i believe as people grow they may grow apart.

Answer 2

I noticed something was left out.

Outside influences and issues seems to be one of the most difficult things for couples to talk about. Issues that affect their everyday operations are ignored or overlooked as insignificant, yet the are some of the most irritating issues for couples to deal with.

Money issues, job issues, even neighbors can cause irritation with individuals, yet couples do not seem to talk about it.

I think many times couples overlook communication as a tool to improve their relationship. They do not communicate because they do not want to "upset" the other member. A bad day at the office, the lack of money to pay bills. This affects conditions within the relationship. Sometimes all the individual needs to do is talk about it, and it can ease some of the fears, allow venting for control, and even discussion to try to resolve the issues.

There are also the more difficult things to discuss: sexual relations, bedroom issues, these can be very difficult as this society is still not "at ease" with talking about their sexual preferences and health. Some see it as a sign of weakness, or maybe they feel their partner will see the discussion as being dissatisfied with their performance.

Discussions about child care and behavior can become a sore spot between couples, and many do not want to tangle with it. So situations go ignored, and that may not be good for the child.

We need to teach couples to open up and not be afraid that disagreement will destroy a relationship. Issues in a relationship need to be discussed, so the relationship can grow past the differences and issues.

Just some food for thought.

Answer 3

First communication is difficult for any two people, especially for the married

You enter into a relationship where two people are growing older and becoming different from when they first got married. Sometimes the relationship can survive, but often time the drift is to width.

Married couples come with children. Children are a joy but they are also strain. Married couple must learn to satisfy not only the partner but their children as well.

I could go into details, but I think this highlight view is enough.

Answer 4

Because communication of feelings, wants, and needs are at best difficult AND invoke feelings and fears of inadequacy in the other. It's like an uncontrolled explosion. Once it starts, it takes on a life of it's own so the parties agree to isolate their feelings.

Answer 5

Familiarity breeds comtempt. The more we are around for someone, the less they appreciate us. That works
both ways. So we don't try as hard.
Repetition, tediousness, even sex gets old, if you're getting plenty.
And control dramas.
The Celestine Prophesy says we all play control dramas.
It says it's because we have cut ourselves off from the
Source of Life, and needlessly play each other in
order to manipulate each others energy. It's a fear
thing that stems from ignorance. Because the Lifeforce is
all around us. The control dramas are,
The "poor me", who makes us feel guilty.
The "interrogator", who keeps asking questions till they find something they can use against us.
The "intimidator", who blows up and scares us into submission.
And the "aloof", who gives us the silent treatment.
Your Mission, if you decide to accept it, it to get over it!
Stop the criticizing that breaks communication down.
And you'll have more communication, and love and affection in your relationship.

Answer 6

They're too close with each other.

In the past, married couple sleep in different beds, sometimes in different rooms, and some even in different houses. It was done that way because they know it's a way to keep things sane and keep them talking with each other.

Today, couples are blinded by 'romance'.

Answer 7

They assume they know each other. They fear hurting one another. They just do not have that need to keep one another because they have accepted themselves as part of a family, assuming that they'll always be there for each other. So, they don't want to say or do things that may jeopardize that.

Answer 8

are you suffering this problem ? communication between anyone can be difficult but not necessarily beyond reproach --- you need to work on it --- and if you have any ' ticker ' , you accept that life is indeed not a bed of roses --- work on it mate -- it could well be worth it provided you are full of love for your mate . good luck ana merry Xmas

Answer 9

when you are truely comfortable with someone , then you are comfortable in their silence also
sometimes the lack of talking is also a sign that all is well
when people arent truely comfortable then they often talk to fill that uncomfortableness..... so it isnt always a bad thing
and when you are with someone 24/7 , you cant expect to always talk

Answer 10

They often hide things from each other. Because they are connected, they must put up walls to hide their thoughts and feelings. Eventually those inner walls block their connection to each other.---------At this point, only a full confession can knock down the walls...

Answer 11

Because it's difficult to speak with a mouth full ?