2006-12-22 23:15:13 · 14 answers · asked by crazychickhawaii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on you, dear... whether you like to stay with him, if yes than go ahead... what is your decision, want to get married to him? as this step of yours will have effect on your whole life
2006-12-22 23:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably won`t believe me when I tell you this but I was in the exact same situation as you earlier this year (2006).
My boyfriend and I met two years ago (2004) and started living together in South Florida eight months after that.
Almost a year later, he decided that we should move to East Texas, where he spent several years as a child, so he would be able to cheaply finish his College degree which he started in Miami FL quite a few years earlier.
All this happened six months ago (last June) and, after a few internal & external relationships problems, I`m pleased to say that we`re still together in our own place now, just the two of us, and there`s nowhere I`d rather be besides maybe back to South Florida with him, the love of my life, where the climate & lifestyle were both a lot more appealing...
Oh well... Nothing`s perfect but at least we`re still together, which is all that matters as far as I`m concerned.
My intentions are to become his wife so I`m extremely serious about our relationship and also, because I do not work right now, moving to another state wasn`t really a problem, at least not for me. As for him, he got a transfer from his old job so he`s still doing the same thing that he was doing in South Florida, which guarantees us a steady income every week.
So my advice to you is to try it and see where it takes you, why not?
Are you happy where you are right now?
Could you consider & contemplate being happy somewhere else with your boyfriend?
Oh and out of sheer curiosity, which state are you in at present and which one are you intenting on moving to?
Good luck to both of you & HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!
2006-12-22 23:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your instincts say to you ......... are you happy, do you think that you could spend the rest of your life with this man ??
I met my partner on-line on the 1st of Jan 04 and moved in with him on the 29th of April the same year, we`d only met twice, I left my job and family behind, and although i moved a long way about 6 hours drive, probably not as far as you may have to move, I did it because my instinct was go for it.
I miss my family a lot, but they are only a phone call away and there`s email.
I`ve had to make new friend and find a new job, I have so can you.
I wish you Luck.
2006-12-22 23:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God! Get your life together first. What's the gaurantee that you two will not fall out of love or worse that he won't fall out of love with you? By asking this question it shows that you don't really see any value in your life without him. Learn to say to yourself, "if he choose to leave all of this then he needs to go". Whatever the reason is that he's leaving don't give anyone that much power over your life. First recognize that life is a gift to first enhance with wisdon, knowledge and power then you will know the direction of your end journey. If you had obtain all of this then you would not be following but leading or at least know yourself what you should do. If you have a degree or higher then by all means follow the guy because at least you have the power to be independant. It is usually better to obtain a secure future before you give it away.
2006-12-22 23:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't do that. That is something you save for marriage. Wives follow their husbands around the world. Girlfriends wait at home for the boyfriend to come back. If he does then there is your answer. If he doesn't .. that's probably not the answer you wanted but still .. at least you found out before you moved out there to be with him. Don't do it. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-12-22 23:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are. There's no committment here....no wedding....'
You have nothing to gain by moving and a whole lot to lose! If he decides at some point that he misses you and wants to marry you, then the choice is yours (if you're still free) but for now, wish him well and let him go!
2006-12-22 23:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a question that should be answered by other people... this is a question you have to ask yourself only b/c it can go four ways... you move with him and then you live with him and be happily ever after... you can move with him but then you drift apart, this will take a lot of money and time... you can stay and do a long distance relatioship... split and move on... you pick one... don't base your decision on the internet people.
2006-12-22 23:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by fxysxysrkly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful of that one!!! Would you have a good job to go to??? Or is it just him that would be employed??? Because you don't want to be depending on him for money, then if he doesn't give you any money to help out, then what??? Think about this seriously.
2006-12-22 23:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you could answer that. weigh the situation. there are lots of factors to consider. are you ready to move with him? are you sure you're ready to leave things or people impt to you? what would be your life there? just think of the possibilities. but if you're ready to take the risk, go..
2006-12-22 23:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by rjyll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your own decision, how do we know you or him. if you cant think of the pro's and cons of that q, you are too immature to be leaviong the house alone, let alone moving in with someone else. good luck!
2006-12-22 23:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋