Gay Marriage? What should we do? How to plan?

Question

Well me and my b/f want to get married but it is not legal in Ohio where we live, but we would like to have a ceremony. How do you plan for something special like this?

I dont understand why people have to be mean!!! I dont go to str8 peoples messages and attack them for being Str8 so skip the question if your going to me an ***!! Thanks!!!

Answer 1

Since its not legal in Ohio, it won't be recognized, unfortuneately. However, you can still have your own ceremony, write your own vows to each other, invite your family and friends and share your love and happiness with them. You can still make it as large or as small of a ceremony as you would like. I would want my closest friends and family to maybe do a reading from something that is special to the both of you. How about a poem? Maybe someone could tell a particular charming story about the two of you. Hopefully your friends and family are a little more open minded than some. (above answers) I fail to see why people are so cruel. With all of the hate and discontent in this world, who are we to judge two people for loving each other. I hope you have a beautiful ceremony, and wonderful life together. I too am from Ohio, and unfortuneately, there is alot of bigotry here as well. Stay strong. Merry Christmas!!!

Answer 2

There are places where gay marriage is not only accepted but performed. Why not consider a nice trip to Canada or a part of Europe where you can go, get married and have your honeymoon. In fact there are churches in some countries that perform gay marriages so if you have a leaning toward the religious and not just th civil marriage ceremony, you can do it that way.

Answer 3

First you would have to determine what kind of ceremony you would like, and whether you want it to be religious, or not, as well as who would perform it. Decide whether you want an intimate reception or a big party. Even thought the law in your state does not recognize a legal marriage between same sex couples, you can still draw up a cohabitation agreement, where you establish the rights and responsibilities of each other concerning property, debts etc., it's very unromantic, but you might want to think about it. Here are some links :

1.Planning Guide

http://gaylife.about.com/od/samesexmarriage/a/ceremony.htm?terms=commitment+ceremony

2.Things to consider when planning a same sex ceremony

http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI91021121650

3. Info. on cohabitation agreements

http://www.equalityinmarriage.org/bmagreements.html

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

I agree with one of the answers, since it unfortunately isn't going to be legal, just do what is in both your hearts. Plann it just like you would if it were legal or religious. Create your dream wedding on paper & make as much of it happen as you can afford. I liked the idea about having family & friends read favorite poems or lyrics...I think it would be beautiful! & the other answer is right, your not bound by traditions so do what ever you want!

As for those of you out there that are so against gay marriages, shame on you!!!!!!!!!!! Why must you go around sticking your nose into their business!? Do they come around & tell you how to live your life!? When will the people on this earth learn to accept that the world is made up of all different types of individuals...different religions, skin colors, languages, beliefs...there is no right, there is no wrong...just respect each others differences so we can just get along!

Answer 5

Plan for it just like you'd plan for any other wedding. Start by working on the big things: where would you like to have the ceremony? In a church? On a beach?

What kind of reception do you want? Where do you want to have it?

What sort of theme do you want? What do you want the general ambiance to be?

There are plenty of wedding-planning tools out there, both online and in book stores. They're worth checking out, even if you'll spend a lot of time crossing out the word "bride."

Just because it isn't legal, that's no reason you can't get married. I just got married last Saturday, and while my wife and I are still legal strangers, we're married in the eyes of our church, family, and friends, and that means a lot to us.

Answer 6

Just like any other wedding except in your case, since it's not legal because your country is in the stone ages, you won't have to worry about who marries you. You may be able to have a religious ceremony, if that's your interest, or just find a friend to hold the ceremony and guide it like a minister or judge would do. Basically, do whatever you want. You are not bound by tradition.

Congrats and good luck!

Answer 7

A city would help. Ohio isn't that big, but big enough

This woman is in Northern Ohio. She can help you. She will also be able to guide you & answer your questions & concerns.
http://www.geocities.com/revangelle/CustomWeddingCeremony.html

Any officiant that is Humanist, Pagan or from the ULC church will probably be able to help you.

Also you can contact Interfaith Officiants. Her ministers perform same-sex unions; one of the stipulations for registration.

Answer 8

go to that state where its legale and get married
after marriage come back and enjoy ur first night

Answer 9

are you planning to have a family also?

Answer 10

It is not legal and not moral. Why do you Gay people insist on having a "marriage"? Stop! Go about your life and stop wasting time on things like this.....no one cares and all of us straight people are really sick of hearing about your whining! If God thought being Gay was 'normal'.....you would not even be here today.....DUH!!!