My boyfriend of 3 years has got friendly with the landlord in our local pub, he is a fat spotty midget with a son who's a policeman but my boyfriend is fit. We moved here to get away from trouble cos my boyfriend was a handful and always in fights.The landlord keeps him there giving him drinks and winding him up, it's a dead end village pub in Wales with half a dozen customers all male chauvinists, prehistoric thinking and they don't like women in there. I collect him but I'm beginning to feel that they are taking the piss out me too. He often starts a fight when he comes home but only when he's been there. The landlord has said a couple of really rude things to me but my boyfriend said he didn't hear them and that I'm being stupid. I don't want us to split up because of a horrible alcoholic man...it sounds stupid but my Dad died about 6 weeks ago and I'm feeling so very low...if only Dad was here he would go and punch all of their lights out
2006-12-22 22:38:19 · 11 answers · asked by reggie 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Oh hunny that is so so sad, i am so sorry to hear your sad news.
You should tell your boyfriend how low you are really feeling but if he was a good boyfriend at all he would know.
It sounds as though he wants to be with you because you have moved away together but if you are in a new place with out your dad around he should be spending more quality comforting time with you.
It seems to be a stage that men go through in their life. He is in a new place too and obviously wants to try and fit in with the locals but if it is having a negative affect on you his social behaviour has to change.
2006-12-22 22:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by jenna p 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your bf may beusing the pub because he doesn't know how to help you with your grief. Would the things that are happening be so upsetting if you hadn't just lost your dad? When you are feeling low anything that happens will seem much worse than usual. Try talking to your BF he might not realise how much he is adding to your grief. I really do hope you manage to sort this out. I lost my dad 2 years ago he was my best friend and I know how much it hurts. I hope you have a wonderful christmas
2006-12-22 22:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by gina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are still grieving and go and talk to the smaritans if you live in england or a helpline, you need to talk. You sound really angry and you should be getting some support,
i think you are blamin these people in the pub too much, its your boyfriend who chooses to go in thier. What are you doing with him if he starts fights and things. Look elsewhere, you will feel better in time.
they don,t sound a nice bunch i would keep away until at least you feel better don,t go in thier.
2006-12-24 09:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy do I know that feeling...I wish MY dad was still here, to protect me too...Yeah, he would have knocked their socks off also, and ran him out of here lol...but you're man unless he has mental problems, is doing just what he wants to do..so listen, why don't you be pretty and strong, and don't be there when he comes home...maybe the landlord is gay, who knows...there are people there who are out to ruin other peoples lives, and if the landlord was a nice person, he wouldn't be doing this and getting involved, ESPECIALLY because of your losing your dad so soon and your man needs to be with you, not putting you through hell..now what would daddy tell you to do? Mine would tell me to snob the idiot and to let him know he is NOT the only man alive...I know it sounds mean,...but sometimes people need a rude awakening...and if you lose him? good riddance...God Bless you darling, you can forgive his behavior, but don't be so available.
2006-12-22 23:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now Reggie, violence is not the answer, why don't you buy or make a Christmas Cake and give this to him, wishing him a Merry Christmas From you and your boyfriend. If you know he is married or has a lady friend, address the card in both names.
Start fresh you can only try.
MERRY XMAS
2006-12-22 23:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to an Either/Or situation
EITHER said boyfriend mends his ways and puts you a bit further up his list of priorities OR trash him and find someone that does
All most of us want male or female is to be given a little respest and give a little respect in return
EITHER OR
Your choice
2006-12-22 22:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your Dad, hon, but this loser bf is using you. He knows you are there for him whenever he wants some "loving" and you give it! Ditch him! If you get rid of him, get rid of that landlord, and get your self-esteem back, you will be able to properly mourn your dad and get on with your own life. GL
2006-12-22 22:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by shire_maid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how fit he is, it sounds to me like you need to dump your boyfriend.
He is treating you badly, and will not change.
He is a chauvinist pig, and your esteem will not improve until he is out of your life.
It sounds to me like he could also be an alcoholic.
Get rid of him!
2006-12-22 22:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to another place
2006-12-22 22:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Benchwarmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speake your mind and tell him to go and **** him self they will pick on someone else soon or get some heavys to wait outside for him lol
2006-12-22 23:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by purple ganja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋