My boyfriend of 3 years has got friendly with the landlord in our local pub, he is a fat spotty midget with a son who's a policeman but my boyfriend is fit. We moved here to get away from trouble cos my boyfriend was a handful and always in fights.The landlord keeps him there giving him drinks and winding him up, it's a dead end village pub in Wales with half a dozen customers all male chauvinists, prehistoric thinking and they don't like women in there. I collect him but I'm beginning to feel that they are taking the piss out me too. He often starts a fight when he comes home but only when he's been there. The landlord has said a couple of really rude things to me but my boyfriend said he didn't hear them and that I'm being stupid. I don't want us to split up because of a horrible alcoholic man...it sounds stupid but my Dad died about 6 weeks ago and I'm feeling so very low...if only Dad was here he would go and punch all of their lights out
2006-12-22 22:36:42 · 16 answers · asked by reggie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That whole story is about a boyfriend who is an absolute idiot. You know the answer but I'll say it anyway--he is no good for you or to you---move on and find a nice guy. God, it cant be any more apparent...you can't possibly be so needy that you have to endure all that crap---real love is not a drunken fool coming home and making you miserable. if you stay--it's your problem.
2006-12-22 22:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reggie, you have a serious problem with both your landlord and your boyfriend. First, you have my sympathy at the loss of your father. That can be a very low point in someone's life. But to address the issue here, you need to talk to your boyfriend. He knows what he is like and you simply need to tell him that you won't put up with his behavior. Its not contructive for either of you. You didn't say if you had children or not, but if you don't, someday you might and they don't need to see that kind of crap. Tell him that he either stops drinking and get some help, or you will be gone. Then get tough and do what you say. And good luck.
2006-12-23 03:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect...the landlord isn't the only horrible alcoholic man! Sober for just over three years now, I realize that it is not the opinions of my mates that caused the strife in my relationships but the alcohol and my ignorance to that fact. And forget Christmas, this will continue far beyond a holiday. My deepest sympathies to you on your fathers passing. If you want to strike a blow to him that will more than black his eye, stop fascilitating his wrong behavior. LEAVE!
2006-12-23 02:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by brian z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a good talk with your b/f, his actions are appalling, especially as your Dad died recently. Is there another pub you could both go to? This landlord sounds like a real piece of work.
2006-12-23 04:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you got any family you can spend christmas with?
Tell your boyfriend that you need to spend some time with someone who really cares about you and that you will be back in the new year.
If he cares about you he will sort himself out and you should be able to talk about it when you get back.
You don't need that a pain of a boyfriend causing you more pain while you are grieving.
2006-12-24 04:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by lothlorien_priestess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your dad, but as you know hitting someone will not solve the problem. your boyfriend is a grown man and make he own decisions.as well as you make your own. if you choose to stay with him then you need to tell him that you have had enough of him acting the way that he is. if he is not willing to change then i would say it is time to end the relationship.but if you decide to stay with him knowing he is not going to change,then im sorry but you are basically telling him its OK to do the things he is doing. so, i guess you need to decide for your self. if you want to continue with a man that can be influenced by a bunch of drunks.
2006-12-23 01:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for your own sake leave his sorry butt. you don't need this on top of the loss you are dealing with. If he was any man at all he would not be out drinking and causing you more grief. But it is my believe that alcoholics don't change their way till they hit rock bottom and and get help, sounds like he is no where near that point and you, need to think about you.....
2006-12-22 23:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should ask the bf if he could limit the time he spends at the bar to maybe 1 night a week instead of so often..... if that doesn't work try to make life special when he does come home so he knows what he is missing if you know what i mean.....throw out some candles put on a special article of clothing......take some time away from there go on a vacation out of town.... tlak to him. tell him how you feel about things.
2006-12-22 22:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by jittarbug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your dad but he's not here and you need to do something about it now. You know your father wouldn't tolerate this. Follow in your father's footsteps.
2006-12-22 23:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,sounds like you are still grieving for your dad,and your boyfriend should be there for you....you deserve better than that!
You know what to do......
Merry Christmas to you x
2006-12-23 04:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋