My bf since July has a serious problem not trustin me. We've broken up once because I was to busy hangin out all the time and he was always worried about me when i went out. I felt like if i told him i wasn't gonna hurt him(cheat) then he should believe me...he says he does but he doesn't. After we got back together, i told him that i wanted a fresh new start and we agreed. STILL he doesnt trust me. He always asks me what time i gotta be here and there and why i gotta go here and he's so insecure that it'z naggin me til i'm almost fed up. I cant go to the mall w/o being accused of getting all da guys #'s. Without trust there's nothing I tell him but he just wont. I've done everything! He says we should get married but i can't live w/ dat da rest of my life!!!
2006-12-22 22:11:10 · 12 answers · asked by chocolateflavadgurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Very hard one...
Some men and women are born jealous and it is very hard to get it out of their system. It can take years. When I was young... like 20 years old... I was also jealous... not as much as your boyfriend... but when I learned to trust her... she turned around and accused me of not caring for her... because I was not jealous anymore.
Simple solution... leave him.
Or try to avoid making him jealous and give him time to learn to trust you. After all... he is not the only guilty party here... You seem to want to have a boyfriend without having any committment towards him. Not many boys or men will put up with that. You have to choose between him and your friends.
2006-12-22 22:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choosing a partner for life is not an easy task thats why most of the people go for divorce within or after 2 years. here are the few things which could be reason of break up.
1. Not getting satisfaction from each other sexually.
2. Not getting satisfaction from each other emotinally.
3. feeling unsecure because of each other behaviour.
4. over trust then finidg other person cheating with us.
5. No trust on each other, just finding the way to fullfill sexual or emotional needs.
6. being greedy and looking more and more from other or searching other person.
after looking the reasons of breakup on top, you can find your answer quickly. if you are not satisfied with him do go after him. but if you love him more than anything else and can sacrifice you can assure him again that you will do what ever he will like!!!
2006-12-22 22:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by intrud4r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wasting time on this guy. He will not change---he is an insecure control freak who will make your life a living hell--and he will be unhappy the rest of his life. He feels inadequate and has low self esteem--stuff you don't need to tolerate---just admit it--he's a creepy guy who needs to grow up--and so do you---move on. He will not change---a boyfriend doesn't do this stuff. A NICE guy shows respect and allows you to be yourself--if he doesn't like it he can just move on---tell him you are bowing out and that's it---don't talk about it because you don't seem to be able to resist his bullcrap. Spend your time with a guy who knows how to be a true partner...you deserve to be happy and do what you want to do.
2006-12-22 22:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone trust you. Trust is something that is earned. The thing to do is to be honest with him and follow through with what you say you are going to do. If he doesn't trust you then maybe you need to reassess your position with him. tell him he must believe you because you are going to do what you say. Give him a chance to trust you and tell him not to call and check up on you because that shows a lack of trust on his part. Tell him you trust him and he should therefore trust you. If he still does not trust you and keeps checking up on you then you need to move on and find someone whom you can trust and who will trust you. Remember though not to do anything to break the trust someone has in you. Alwaus be honest with someone. Honesty is the best policy.
2006-12-22 22:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First: Stop using phrases such as "w/ dat da rest..." and "it'z naggin me til" this is not the way trustworthy peope speak, sorry.
2nd: Talking about cheating infers cheating, stop bringing it up w/ you bf.
2006-12-22 22:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by godsmiserableteeth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try wearing a chastity belt.
2006-12-22 22:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by S D Modiano 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
- Invite'em to church, that's where y'all should be any ways,you want a fresh clean new start, that's where yall'er gonna get it, that's right, I'll say it, run straight to Jesus ! ! !
- MICROW -
2006-12-22 22:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mystro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur b/f may have some guilt of his own there. Why r u still with him?
2006-12-22 22:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Chesty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are no kids involved, move on.
2006-12-22 22:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ted T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAID TO HIM THAT U LOVE HIM AND THAT U DONNT CHEAT HIM....AND DONNT MAKE HIM BE WORRIED ABOUT U
2006-12-22 22:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by funnyboy962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋