I don't enjoy being around my family during the holiday's. I'm not included in conversations and ignored if I try to be part of this. This has gone on for years. My girls are tired of seeing my family belittle me because we are not as financially well off as they are. They say awful things and judge me and the way I raise my girls. Both do excellently in school, are well dressed and hardly ever sick. Both of my girls want to stay home and start our own tradition. I have tried to talk with my family but they are never interested in returning my call or discussing any issues with me. " Not right now" . At the end of a family gathering, I feel as if I've wasted my time. I'm honestly tired of amusing them.
2006-12-22 21:49:46 · 9 answers · asked by gigi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your parents job in raising you is long ago done with. You may well love them and respect them, but i see no reason why you should let them diminish you, judge you, and generally make you feel like crap. Please do get out of this situation, you have your own family now, and sounds like your doing a great job there, too! Keep up with it, there are great things you can do with your family (not your parents' family) , and that does include spending the Holidays with them. Its all up to you. I see to reason why you should have to hide or lie. Just make a decision and announce it to them. Youre old enough. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-22 21:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well start your own traditions---find something that will make your holiday nice for your little family. It's your choice and you don't owe your family anymore of an explanation than " we will be busy". Be polite and courteous...be better than them--silently. Be proud of your children all the time--how you handle this will be an emotional lesson for your kids--keep it happy and keep it in the spirit of christmas.Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-23 05:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should not lie. tell them the truth, that you dont appreciate what they do but you still try to come hoping that they would care about you as a family member and not belittle you as they do. you can tell them that you are going to be at home if any of them want to join you. tell them the truth, tell them that even though you may not have as many dishes to eat, they would never be belittled by you or anyone in your family. cuz if you continue to allow them to treat you as they do, what is going to stop them in the future? nothing, they will just continue to do it and it will actually get worse as their children get older and hear the lies and then those kids would start too...its better to stop them asap.
2006-12-23 05:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by xdamachinex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Havn't you learned by now the truth is the best, Simple and to the point, and you don't have to retrack thoughts. Just say it how it is, and if they can't except it TOUGH. its your life and times have changed. Good idea to start your own tradition where you come first, and can be the star. Don't let them live your life, it is time to stand up for yourself. BE HAPPY WITH YOUR GIRLS....
2006-12-23 06:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What lie would you be telling them? I don't see why you have to lie at all, if this is they way they are with you, just tell them the truth, that you and your family decided to have your own tradition this year. Just that.
2006-12-23 05:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh we are twins separated at birth. I'm going to be with up to 14 inlaws in a 4 bdrm house, and four dogs. HELPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!
No, make the break. Make your girls feel important! Merry Christmas!!
2006-12-23 06:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
excelllently? Is that a word? Anyway, just tell your family you don't feel too well. That will always get you off the hook. Good luck
2006-12-23 05:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell them that this year you are spending a quiet time with your girls for christmas. maybe they'll get the hint after a few years of this
2006-12-23 05:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋