My wife and i are haveing problems with our 3 year old. He wont sleep at night when put to bed he crys for hours until he cant cry anymore. He is violent towards my wife. He doesnt play well with his sister. He is extreamly bossy (he trys to tell you what to do) and it doesnt matter who it is. He will pick toys at random and attempt to dismantle them piece by piece. He cant sit still for any period of time not even for a favorite cartoon. He always has to be doing something (fiddleing with fingers, picking his nose, or demanding food or drink.) His favorite is just crying. I my eyes as his dad i think he has a lot of things to enjoy, i bought a small 4 wheeler for him and i to go play on to get us time and that doesnt work. we play with him as a daily routine but nothing we seem to try works. As well as what the psych told us to do which was ignor him. That made it wrose. If there is anyone who has had these problems or you just have advice please let us know.
2006-12-22 21:31:12 · 10 answers · asked by mega18_200321 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I dont know much about gene problems because he is not biologically mine. And we dont hurt him in any way. We take toys, put him in time out, or he doesnt he snacks. Our punishments are non physical. UNLESS it deems approiate but hes not usually that bad off. once a month maybe.
2006-12-22 21:56:19 · update #1
It sounds to me like you should have him evaluated for Asperger's Syndrome. Asperger's is a high functioning form of Autism. Poor sleeping routines, violent outbursts, not playing well with others, taking his toys apart, fiddling with hs fingers or other odd hand movements are all possible symptoms. There are other symptoms such as advanced language skills, a delay in motor skills, and so on. They have a complete list of symptoms on www.autismspeaks.com or if you google autism there is a website that has a quiz you can take. ( i believe it is about.com) No child with an Autism spectrum disorder has any set number of symptoms and Asperger's is often overlooked because the children are often extremely bright. It could also be ADHD. In any event, I think you need a new doctor because these are not normal behaviors for a three year old. Try to take him to a neurologist. They may give you a new perspective on this. Also I have trouble with the fact that your Psych told you to ignore this. That is definitely bad advice.
2006-12-22 21:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I find that a lot of problems with our children these days can be helped with diet. Cow's dairy, wheat, sugar and artificial sweetners are playing havoc with our children. We have eliminated those things in our kids diets and have seen a great calming and focus develop. We use goat cheese and rice dream milk, spelt, rice or oat pasta and breat and Xylitol (an organic sugar substitute) or pure cane sugar for our kids. I can also tell you that olive oil on the back just below the ribs can be very soothing, as it provides essential fatty acids to the adrenal glands.
I have a friend who says that her son gets hyper when the TV is on - you might want to try to limit that, if possible. You can also call your local school district and tell them the problems you are having - they might have some free therapy programs that can help or some resources that are available to you in your community to help.
Remember - children are doing the best they can, usually all they want to do is please their parents. Kids that consistently act out can be suffering from some sort of discomfort or reacting to some stimuli that makes it hard for them to behave "normally". Lots of patience and love for your child and yourself will help most in the end.
Peace!
2006-12-23 03:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cartoons. I read that if he watches cartoons like dragonball z all time they start getting interested and involved. Also mabay you should find a way of punishing him without hurting him in any way. Mabay he has to sit at a notty chair for 5 minutes or so... And you should also award his honesty if he does something bad or notty. He should possibly be offered sweets if hes a good boy and does nothing bad for a few hours or so. Or go to the extreme and say if hes a good boy all day he can pick a toy. Hope this helps.
2006-12-22 21:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by woodythestick 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have very similar problems with my 3 1/2 year old son... I've tried many things; not one particular thing seems to work but a combination of them has eased up a little bit of my son's anger and out of control behavior. It might sound lame but I bought the SuperNanny's book, went on the Dr. Phill web-site ( he has numerous sections on parenting and discipline which are VERY HELPFUL), also I changed my son's daily routine, he stopped taking naps during the day ( which makes bed time so much easier), I bought relaxing aroma-therapy bubble bath, I downloaded soothing sounds and music that I play for him at night... All this combined with pre-established personal disciplinary measures ( meaning that we sat down and established which behaviors were acceptable and which were unacceptable where both parents have to agree to keep up their end; no more giving up because it's just easier. When your child realizes that all of a sudden when dad or mom says no, THEY REALLY mean no, and there's no point in agruing because he can't win anymore ( it' really hard but trust me it works), you might have to put him in his room in the beginning for a long time (until he calms down. And no talking through the door because he is still getting your attention -even if he kicks the doors or throws his toys -which you should remove or put out of reach so that his room doesn't become a playroom while he is in time out....
Trust me it's hard, but in time you will regain your role of respected parent... Read up, research and you will find your own way to restore peace in your home
Good luck
2006-12-22 21:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by stefanyt_charron 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its his diet avoiding certain foods like yellow cheezels ,red cordial etc can have an impact. Also if he is overtired he will be worse at night time. So many things could be causing it and really only a understanding professional can help.Good luck.
2006-12-22 22:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi not to worry. First I suggest praying over him and for him . I have 3 boys and my oldest was similar to this and I had no idea because monitored what he watched and who was around. I took him to a child counselor and she spent sessions with help in her very child oriented office and and really worked. It also about how you communicate with and around you child. Try a child couselor first thats what there for. Please dont give him meds.
2006-12-23 03:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This problem is not un-common...BUT need's urgent attention from someone who can help, and come into the house...and see first hand....and quickly!!
Ask a doctor for help, or a full time Nanny, anyone who has experience...could also be A.D.D. or A.D.H.D.not saying it is....but!!! you MUST get help, straight away....before it gets out of hand.o.k. good luck...
2006-12-23 01:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah maybe its just in his genes.
2006-12-22 21:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by It Co$t To Be Around The Bo$$ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you were as violent as your kid when you were 3 years old...
2006-12-22 21:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by changmw 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Spank his butt he will learn
2015-04-20 18:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋